Death Cafe profile for Jools Barsky

Location: United Kingdom

About Jools Barsky:

Co-founder of Death Cafe, sister of Death Cafe founder Jon Underwood.

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Jools Barsky's posts on the Death Cafe website

New Blog post: Death Cafe is 7 today!

Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 24, 2018, 8:24 p.m. 5 comments

This is just a very brief message to commemorate today as being Death Cafe’s 7th birthday!! 

It has been a whirlwind and we’ve learnt so, so much in the last 12 months it‘s hard to know where to begin!!

Unfortunately I’ve had a pretty debilitating eye issue which put the brakes on getting the traditional birthday video filmed and edited for today.

I would still very much love to talk to ...

Created in 2011 by British entrepreneur Jon Underwood, "The Death Cafe is inspired by the centuries-old European salon (or cafe), an informal gathering to discuss philosophical, political or scientific ideas," ...

Brooklyn Daily Eagle:

Press: Death Cafe comes to Newport

Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 14, 2018, 6:16 a.m.

The Death Cafe is almost upon us – but fear not, it’s much more jovial than it sounds. 

Coming to Newport’s God’s Providence House Tea Rooms in St Thomas Square on Wednesday (September 12) – the Death Cafe meets to discuss making the most of your life....


Isle of Wight Observer:

Link: Edna's Death Cafe!

Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 7, 2018, 7:55 a.m.

New fiction book written about a Death Cafe:

As in life, death is not without its agenda. This is something seventy-nine year old Edna Reid finds out when her partner, Ted, suddenly dies.

To cope with her loss, she sets up a Death Cafe to break down the taboo around ...

New Blog post: Twelve months since the death of Jon Underwood

Posted by Jools Barsky on June 27, 2018, midnight 4 comments

It is hard to believe that an entire year has passed since we lost Jon Underwood. This post is to mark an anniversary that seems very hard to comprehend.

So what have we learned during these last 12 months?

We have learned that grief is a constant companion, but that it ebbs and flows and can change from a dull ache to something much more powerful in an instant, sometimes for no obvious reason.

We ...

The arriving guests who examined the floral china found skulls in the patterns. Books about death stood on tables at the corners of the room. Coffee, tea and cake were on the house.

Casper Star Tribune:

Link: The Grave Truth Behind Death Cafe Documentary

Posted by Jools Barsky on March 23, 2018, 6:22 a.m.

Death is an inevitable part of life but for most of us it’s a taboo subject. The documentary Dying to Talk hears from the people who are talking about it in 'Death Cafes' around the world. Presenter, Julian Keane and producer, Chelsea Dickinson answer listeners’ questions on the documentary ...

Press: Talking about dying over cake at Death Café

Posted by Jools Barsky on March 9, 2018, 7:06 a.m.

Video: What to say to someone who is dying

Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 19, 2017, 3:40 p.m.

Link: The second Death Cafe Massive

Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 12, 2017, 1:51 p.m. 1 comment

The second Death Cafe Massive

A great big congratulations to HUCI who have co-ordinated the 2nd Death Cafe Massive taking place on 13th December across four countries and 23 cities:

Tucumán (Argentina), Toledo , Lima (Peru), Madrid and  Madrid 2 ,   Collado Villalba , Seville , Pamplona , Hospitalet , Granada , Talavera , Alicante , Vigo , Malaga , Zarautz , Algorta , Burgos , Donostia , Murcia ...

Practitioners question: Alcohol at Death Cafes?

Posted by Jools Barsky on Nov. 17, 2017, 3:34 a.m. 9 comments

Alcohol at Death Cafes?

Hi all,

I was contacted recently by an individual concerned that someone was offering a Death Cafe where alcohol was served.

My personal opinion (and from discussions that Donna and I had with Jon, his perspective also) is that it is okay for alcohol to be served so long as ...

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Video: Jon Underwood's Birthday Memorial

Posted by Jools Barsky on Oct. 28, 2017, 12:32 a.m. 5 comments

Practitioners question: Media requests

Posted by Jools Barsky on Oct. 6, 2017, 7:34 a.m. 3 comments

Hello Death Cafe community! 

We still need experienced Death Cafe hosts to be media representatives - ideally we'll have several people in each country where Death Cafes are held.

If you're interested you will need to provide the following information:

1: Your name

2: Your email

3: Your location ...

Video: Death Cafe is 6 years old!

Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 25, 2017, 6:22 a.m.

Practitioners question: Authentic Death Cafes revisited

Posted by Jools Barsky on Aug. 27, 2017, 5:55 a.m. 4 comments

Authentic Death Cafes revisited

Hi all,


Since I have been managing the admin on Death Cafe and keeping a closer eye on things, it has come to my attention that the below is still an issue. 

Due to the growing awareness of Death Cafe and the inevitable changes we're now facing, it's ...

Press: Death Cafe serves up insights into life's end in Japan

Posted by Jools Barsky on Aug. 10, 2017, 6:45 p.m.

In early July, seven men and women gathered over coffee and snacks at a Buddhist temple in Tokyo's Shinjuku Ward to discuss death.

Over two hours, the talk ranged from how to reduce fear of death and cope with a loved one's passing to living out one's ...

Kyodo News:

New Blog post: Before Jon's funeral - words from Jon's mother-in-law Carol

Posted by Jools Barsky on July 5, 2017, 4:16 p.m.

A tribute to my lovely son-in-law Jon Underwood


You were a special person but it's only now you're gone I realise how special a person you really were.


I was quite intolerant of Death Cafe because I didn't understand it. I'm afraid to say you can still learn lessons no matter how old you are, but just because I didn't understand or agree doesn't make it wrong, it was ...

New Blog post: Funeral for Death Cafe pioneer Jon Underwood breaks new ground

Posted by Jools Barsky on July 3, 2017, 12:39 p.m. 6 comments

Jon’s family have been overwhelmed by the love and support they have received from the Death Cafe community following Jon’s sudden death this week.


As we have read in so many of the beautiful tributes that have poured in over the last few days, Jon’s work was ground-breaking and pioneering.  His funeral will be no exception.


The Jamyang Buddhist Centre in London meant a lot to Jon. He gave up a well ...

New Blog post: A message from Donna Molloy, Jon Underwood’s wife

Posted by Jools Barsky on June 28, 2017, 5:21 p.m. 167 comments

As you all know the objective of Death Cafe is helping us all 'make the most of our finite lives'. With shocking poignancy on Sunday 25th June we experienced the finiteness of life at its most brutal. And more specifically the finiteness of the life of Jon Underwood, founder of Death Cafe, dad to two truly amazing children and my husband. He was 44.

Comfort is very hard to find right now, but there is ...

Death Cafe: Santa Barbara's first Death Cafe

Posted by Jools Barsky on July 2, 2014, 1:17 p.m.

With Jools Barsky

Feb. 27, 2013, 6.30 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (PST)


Death Cafe: Death Cafe 253 in Tacoma, WA

Posted by Jools Barsky on Nov. 29, 2013, 10:35 a.m.

With Death Cafe Tacoma facilitator

Jan. 11, 2014, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Pacific Standard Time)


We want to support ourselves and our community in bringing death out of the closet!

Link: Costa Da Morte

Posted by Jools Barsky on Nov. 8, 2013, 8:40 a.m.

Costa Da Morte

So named because of the large number of shipwrecks that have occured on its rocky shores.

But despite the ominous name, it is still frequented by budding surfers looking for a thrill-ride!

Link: Death Cafe Pinterest

Posted by Jools Barsky on Nov. 4, 2013, 7:57 a.m. 5 comments

Death Cafe Pinterest

We're all about embracing new media, and we now have our very own Pinterest page with all sorts of intriguing deathy things!

You can follow us by visiting:

Art: Surfing skeleton

Posted by Jools Barsky on Oct. 25, 2013, 2:16 p.m.

Surfing skeleton

Video: Dead Now

Posted by Jools Barsky on Oct. 15, 2013, 3:41 a.m.

Video: Live life right

Posted by Jools Barsky on Oct. 15, 2013, 3:34 a.m.

Art: Sometimes we need a wake-up call like death...

Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 30, 2013, 3:34 a.m.

Art: Calaveras

Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 10, 2013, 7:25 a.m.


Cool skeleton art!

New Blog post: The new website

Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 5, 2013, 6:20 a.m. 2 comments

It's been two years since this project began, and to see where it started and where it is today makes me beam with pride.

It is all thanks to the wonderful death-chat devoutee Jon Underwood, and all the fantastic contributors across the globe who have put so much time into making Death Cafe such a huge success.

Congratulations Jon, your new site is exceptionally elegant and exciting, informative and professional. 

Can't wait to ...

Art: Time passes too quickly

Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 30, 2011, 11:53 p.m.

Time passes too quickly

In the search for a cool new background to adorn our site, I came across this beauty from designer TopNinja. And how true it is!

Resource: Soul Midwifery

Posted by Jools Barsky on Aug. 16, 2011, 11:50 p.m.

New Blog post: Sky burial goes mainstream

Posted by Jools Barsky on Feb. 11, 2011, 2:22 p.m. 2 comments

After watching this weeks' episode of Human Planet on the BBC, I was intrigued to see the discussion of a practice known as "sky burial", as mentioned in our earlier post. In the mountains of Nepal, the high altitudes prevent Buddhists from practicing their usual method of body disposal (cremation) and so alternative methods are sought.


The deceased is taken to a remote part of the mountains and a ritual is performed by a specialist ...

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