Death Cafe profile for Jools Barsky
Location: United Kingdom
About Jools Barsky:
Co-founder of Death Cafe, sister of Death Cafe founder Jon Underwood.
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We were so sad to hear about the death of our friend and long-standing Death Cafe supporter, Sherry Gilles, on 1st March 2021.
After taking over Death Cafe following the death of Jon Underwood in 2017, Sherry was one of the first Death Cafe hosts that got in touch, and helped me to find my feet in a time of great turmoil.
As someone who worked with Sherry for a number of years prior to ...
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It's Death Cafe's 9th birthday today... Twelve months ago I could never have imagined there would be such huge changes in the way we operate. As Death Cafe enters its 9th year we are now regularly holding discussions about death with groups of people who reside in very different geographical locations across the world. People who live 1000s of miles apart are all coming together ...
Hello to all our Death Cafe hosts, both new and those who have been with us for a long time.
We have never in our lifetimes had to contend with such unprecedented changes to our lifestyle, and threats to our health and wellbeing. Never has there been such a need to talk about death and dying, and we are not able to meet each other face-to-face to do this, with as yet, no specified end ...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Feb. 21, 2020, 7:13 a.m.
An opinion piece co-authored with Corrina Grimes, by Professor Brian Dolan, whom I had the pleasure of hearing speak at the Countess of Chester hospital in January 2020.
Prof Brian Dolan and Corrina Grimes outline the case for advance care planning in the context of patient time and their last ...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Jan. 25, 2020, 5:18 a.m.
Attending one of the Capital Region’s only roaming cafes comes with a few conditions: keep an open mind and feel free to discuss death. At least that’s the case with Death Cafe Albany. “My friends say ‘You need to change the name’ I say ‘That’s the point ...
New Blog post: A note from Jools - Death Cafe reaches 10,000 events
Posted by Jools Barsky on Jan. 18, 2020, 10:31 a.m. 7 comments
I am delighted to share with you that January 2020 has seen us reach 10,000 events in 69 countries (and that's just those that have been listed on our website!)!!
When my brother Jon Underwood, the founder of Death Cafe, held the first Death Cafe in his home on 25th September 2011, we would have never imagined that so many people across the globe would be so enthusiastic about holding events ...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Jan. 12, 2020, 12:11 p.m.
Sue in conversation with Jools Barsky, co-founder of the Death Cafe movement about how Death Cafes help us to live consciously for a better world...
A POINT OF VIEW, BBC RADIO 4
WRITER: SARAH DUNANT
PRODUCER: AEDELE ARMSTRONG
An evening at the Death Café
A couple of months ago, I spent an evening at a “ death café’. If that phrase
means nothing to you, then I should say immediately that it has nothing to do ...
A POINT OF VIEW, BBC RADIO 4: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0009lr1
Stamford’s first Death Cafe has opened up serving a message that we should make the most of our “finite” lives...
Rutland & Stamford Mercury: https://www.stamfordmercury.co.uk/news/stamford-sessions-where-you-can-talk-about-death-over-a-coffee-9083491/
Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 20, 2019, 10:33 a.m.
A PIECE of dance theatre about dying – accompanied by an after-show Death Café – comes to Glasgow tomorrow...
Evening Times: https://byretheatre.com/events/death-cafe/
Posted by Jools Barsky on Aug. 30, 2019, 1:59 p.m.
Talking about death is a tricky topic for many of us reserved Brits. But Death Cafe is on a mission to break this stigma. Far from being creepy and morbid...
Posted by Jools Barsky on July 13, 2019, 12:48 p.m.
A pop-up death cafe has been held in Adelaide to spark conversations and help people overcome their fear of dying.
Conversations about life and death might not be common over coffee and cake, but almost 30 people gathered at church in Walkerville, in Adelaide's north-east, to chat about wakes ...
Resource: The Dying Matters Podcast “Let’s talk about it.” Death and dying is one of those topics that’s just
Posted by Jools Barsky on July 5, 2019, 8:35 a.m.
We know that we will all have to face it one day, but we put that “difficult” conversation off until tomorrow. Or the day after… Well it doesn’t have to be that way.
The people we talk to on this podcast are people who do talk about it. They ...
Global Wellness Summit: https://www.globalwellnesssummit.com/2019-global-wellness-trends/
Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 27, 2018, 5:33 p.m.
Mancos has joined thousands of other cities around the world as it begins hosting a regular event known as a Death Cafe.
The event is hosted by the Mancos Public Library and facilitated by the library’s manager of development and adult programming, Shari Dunn.
The Journal: https://the-journal.com/articles/114556
They come because the philosophical notion of mortality intrigues them. Or because they are death doulas, end of life therapists, palliative care nurses, or someone else who works with the dying.
Maybe they’ve got a loved one who is sick. Perhaps they, themselves, suffer from a terminal disease. Maybe ...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 27, 2018, 5:25 p.m.
One Sunday evening this September, I stepped into a northeast Minneapolis art gallery, signed my name next to a human skull, and poured myself a glass of red wine. Then I joined a group seated in a circle, and we started talking about taking our own lives...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 27, 2018, 5:19 p.m.
The first Wednesday evening of this month, (October 3, 2018) our family’s Great Dane passed away peacefully resting under a cedar tree. His body had been breaking down...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 27, 2018, 5:10 p.m.
WE SAT IN a circle, clutching paper cups full of steaming coffee and tea. First, I said my name. "Hi, I'm Lexi." What came next wasn't an admission of addiction, but a statement about what I feared most about death. "I fear the unknown," I began, but paused ...
Death isn’t a topic oft-discussed, but it is an end we all face and for many, it is a conversation worth having....
Worcester Magazine: https://www.worcestermag.com/news/20181101/relaxing-afternoon-with-death
The Hamilton Spectator: https://www.thespec.com/news-story/9024608-death-caf-comes-to-dunnville/
“I love the brownies.” “I’m interested in learning about death.” These are the icebreakers at the November session of McGill’s Death Cafe. Though the event drew a varied crowd, commonalities developed between the full room of people intrigued by both creature comforts and talk of mortality...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 27, 2018, 9:54 a.m.
Chaplain and Death Cafe member Michele Tae and members Joyce Harvey-Morgan and Susan Randall talk about discussions of death with Idaho Matters on Tuesday, November 13, 2018.
When Christine Cross and Cathy Coulter first conceived of hosting a Death Café in Virden, they didn’t know if anyone would be interested in casual conversations about death and dying. But the 20 spaces filled up so fast and the evening was such a hit that three more Death ...
Most people are uncomfortable talking about death and dying but there’s a worldwide movement trying to change that. And surprisingly, it all starts over tea and cake...
It’s an average Monday night in Revelstoke. Seated in a circle at Dose Café, 12 complete strangers are sharing conversation. The topic is death...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 27, 2018, 9:41 a.m.
Betty Ann McPherson's life got pretty dark several years ago when her daughter got sick and died of cancer.
"I was sure that once her life was over, my life would be over," she said.
"For a time, it really did feel like that."
Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 27, 2018, 9:20 a.m.
Strangers will be gathering in Nailsworth this week in an effort to demystify an important but uncomfortable subject...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 27, 2018, 9:15 a.m.
ON A BRISK NOVEMBER NIGHT, Tagine, a Moroccan restaurant tucked away on a quiet side street near Times Square, is alive with conversation. Nearly 20 people pack in around two tables cluttered with heaping, communal plates of steaming couscous, chickpeas, and yellow lentils. People exchange stories, laughs, and soft wedges ...
Atlas Obscura: https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/what-is-a-death-cafe
Days prior to returning to Montreal this August, I visited my father’s grave for the first time in nearly a decade, 17 years after he died. As a child in visits past....
The McGill Tribune: http://mcgilltribune.com/beyond-sobs-and-scares/
While enjoying her seventh decade on the planet, Donna Personna knows her remaining days are numbered. Yet the prospect of her demise doesn't scare her...
The Bay Area Reporter: https://www.ebar.com/news/news/269128
PEOPLE in Taunton are being challenged to make an unusual New Year's Resolution - to talk more about death...
Somerset County Gazette: https://www.somersetcountygazette.co.uk/news/17318628.taunton-death-cafe-meeting-in-january/
Posted by Jools Barsky on Dec. 24, 2018, 5:50 a.m.
TUESDAY, DEC. 18 — Demystify the fear and taboo surrounding the topic of death while enjoying a hot, comforting beverage...
The McGill Tribune: http://www.mcgilltribune.com/student-living/tribune-tries-death-and-cake-111318/
This is just a very brief message to commemorate today as being Death Cafe’s 7th birthday!!
It has been a whirlwind and we’ve learnt so, so much in the last 12 months it‘s hard to know where to begin!!
Unfortunately I’ve had a pretty debilitating eye issue which put the brakes on getting the traditional birthday video filmed and edited for today.
I would still very much love to talk to ...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Sept. 14, 2018, 6:18 a.m.
Created in 2011 by British entrepreneur Jon Underwood, "The Death Cafe is inspired by the centuries-old European salon (or cafe), an informal gathering to discuss philosophical, political or scientific ideas," ...
Isle of Wight Observer: https://iwobserver.co.uk/2018/09/11/death-cafe-comes-to-newport/
New fiction book written about a Death Cafe:
As in life, death is not without its agenda. This is something seventy-nine year old Edna Reid finds out when her partner, Ted, suddenly dies.
To cope with her loss, she sets up a Death Cafe to break down the taboo around ...
It is hard to believe that an entire year has passed since we lost Jon Underwood. This post is to mark an anniversary that seems very hard to comprehend.
So what have we learned during these last 12 months?
We have learned that grief is a constant companion, but that it ebbs and flows and can change from a dull ache to something much more powerful in an instant, sometimes for no obvious reason.
Posted by Jools Barsky on April 20, 2018, 1:19 p.m.
The arriving guests who examined the floral china found skulls in the patterns. Books about death stood on tables at the corners of the room. Coffee, tea and cake were on the house.
Death is an inevitable part of life but for most of us it’s a taboo subject. The documentary Dying to Talk hears from the people who are talking about it in 'Death Cafes' around the world. Presenter, Julian Keane and producer, Chelsea Dickinson answer listeners’ questions on the documentary ...
A great big congratulations to HUCI who have co-ordinated the 2nd Death Cafe Massive taking place on 13th December across four countries and 23 cities:
Tucumán (Argentina), Toledo , Lima (Peru), Madrid and Madrid 2 , Collado Villalba , Seville , Pamplona , Hospitalet , Granada , Talavera , Alicante , Vigo , Malaga , Zarautz , Algorta , Burgos , Donostia , Murcia ...
I was contacted recently by an individual concerned that someone was offering a Death Cafe where alcohol was served.
My personal opinion (and from discussions that Donna and I had with Jon, his perspective also) is that it is okay for alcohol to be served so long as ...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Nov. 10, 2017, 3:28 a.m.
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Hello Death Cafe community!
We still need experienced Death Cafe hosts to be media representatives - ideally we'll have several people in each country where Death Cafes are held.
If you're interested you will need to provide the following information:
1: Your name
2: Your email
3: Your location ...
Since I have been managing the admin on Death Cafe and keeping a closer eye on things, it has come to my attention that the below is still an issue.
Due to the growing awareness of Death Cafe and the inevitable changes we're now facing, it's ...
Posted by Jools Barsky on Aug. 10, 2017, 6:45 p.m.
New Blog post: Before Jon's funeral - words from Jon's mother-in-law Carol
Posted by Jools Barsky on July 5, 2017, 4:16 p.m.
A tribute to my lovely son-in-law Jon Underwood
You were a special person but it's only now you're gone I realise how special a person you really were.
I was quite intolerant of Death Cafe because I didn't understand it. I'm afraid to say you can still learn lessons no matter how old you are, but just because I didn't understand or agree doesn't make it wrong, it was ...
Posted by Jools Barsky on July 3, 2017, 12:39 p.m. 6 comments
Jon’s family have been overwhelmed by the love and support they have received from the Death Cafe community following Jon’s sudden death this week.
As we have read in so many of the beautiful tributes that have poured in over the last few days, Jon’s work was ground-breaking and pioneering. His funeral will be no exception.
The Jamyang Buddhist Centre in London meant a lot to Jon. He gave up a well ...
As you all know the objective of Death Cafe is helping us all 'make the most of our finite lives'. With shocking poignancy on Sunday 25th June we experienced the finiteness of life at its most brutal. And more specifically the finiteness of the life of Jon Underwood, founder of Death Cafe, dad to two truly amazing children and my husband. He was 44.
Comfort is very hard to find right now, but there is ...
With Jools Barsky
Feb. 27, 2013, 6.30 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (PST)
With Death Cafe Tacoma facilitator
Jan. 11, 2014, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Pacific Standard Time)
We want to support ourselves and our community in bringing death out of the closet!
So named because of the large number of shipwrecks that have occured on its rocky shores.
But despite the ominous name, it is still frequented by budding surfers looking for a thrill-ride!
We're all about embracing new media, and we now have our very own Pinterest page with all sorts of intriguing deathy things!
You can follow us by visiting:
It's been two years since this project began, and to see where it started and where it is today makes me beam with pride.
It is all thanks to the wonderful death-chat devoutee Jon Underwood, and all the fantastic contributors across the globe who have put so much time into making Death Cafe such a huge success.
Congratulations Jon, your new site is exceptionally elegant and exciting, informative and professional.
Can't wait to ...
In the search for a cool new background to adorn our site, I came across this beauty from designer TopNinja. And how true it is!
If one must, this sounds like a good way to go
After watching this weeks' episode of Human Planet on the BBC, I was intrigued to see the discussion of a practice known as "sky burial", as mentioned in our earlier post. In the mountains of Nepal, the high altitudes prevent Buddhists from practicing their usual method of body disposal (cremation) and so alternative methods are sought.
The deceased is taken to a remote part of the mountains and a ritual is performed by a specialist ...