Death Cafe write-ups
Great meeting with about eight interested people. We talked about death and life and what it all means. We are meeting every month but will skip December.
Another great Death Cafe filled with a variety of conversation. I've titled this post "Where do we go?" because this theme nails the nature of the topics:
- Where do we go in that last ebbing time?
- Where do we go as a generation taking care of older parents- while aging ourselves?
- Where do we go in making living communities that help people have their best last years of this life?
More to come!
We had a vitual Death Café on December 19, 2023 via Zoom. Elliott from Iowa Death Collective facilitated the café with two people attending. In our short discussion, we talked about funerals and deaths occurring during the holidays and how people cope. It was also mentioned that sometimes time doesn’t even help enjoy the holidays. This time included a brief conversation about the need for more events pertaining to certain types of causes of death, because people do find comfort being around others who have had similar significant losses. Discussing disposition of our bodies was briefly mentioned. We finished the café discussing requirements for funeral homes in ...
Facilitated by Bridget Allan of Lotus Reflections (Aust) - Death Doula, Meditation Teacher and Reiki Therapist.
2023 was a new beginning for the Death Cafe in Bendigo, Victoria Australia. Generously supported by our venue provider, The Great Stupa of Universal Compassion.
Through these gatherings, we've witnessed the courage and generosity of individuals facing their mortality head-on, embracing the uncertainty with grace and resilience. We've explored the complexities of grief, acknowledging that it's not a linear process but a unique journey for each person.
Our last City of Roses Death Cafe of 2023 was attended by 19 people. We enjoyed a lively discussion of how death has touched us--loss of a childhood friend, sudden loss of a loved one who falls and is dead less than a day later, loss of a parent, a sibling, a chlld. One participant described living through the darkest times of the AIDS pandemic, and then living with those memories.
As usual, we talked about how hard it can be to discuss death: one participant invited a friend who responded that they didn't like the sound of "Death Cafe." Another invited a friend who has a ...
The first Death Cafe at Withington Methodist Church was cosy, with tea, coffee and cake. As it was a new event in the area, the numbers were limited, but two people external to the congregation came, as well as two people from the congregation. The conversation flowed for an hour and people found it really beneficial.
We had a virtual Death Café meeting on November 21, 2023 via Zoom. Buffy Peters from Hamilton’s Academy of Grief & Loss was our facilitator. There were a total of five people who joined Buffy online.
During our time, we discussed the importance of finding people who are comfortable talking about death and dying, which Death Café is a comfort zone. It was mentioned that providers having comfort during conversations about death and dying can be valuable for patients and a great resource. Listening is so important while talking to someone about death & dying. We spent time discussing different words used to talk about death, dying, and how ...
For our inaugural offering, we had 11 community members come for tea and cake (gratefully received), amazing conversation, and not a little laughter.
Tracy opened the session with a reading of Mary Oliver's "When Death Comes".
The usual round of introductions included an invitation to "tell us why you are here" - prompting lovely stories, with much head nodding and affirmation around the circle.
Questions ranged from, "Why do we not want to tell people that we are sick until it's too late?" to "What do you want to come back as in your next life?"
Several wonderful books were mentioned as resources:
- "The Book of Two ...
It was a lively conversation visited by several dogs who ran into the chapel curious about what we were doing. With lovely sweet snacks provided by the Congressional Cemetery staff, we settled in to conversation that circled and grew. Even the silences were thoughtful.
What an impactful evening. Thank you to all who come out.
Saturday afternoon 24 of us gathered for tea, cake and gluten free cookies. Our large group touched on the difficulty some people have responding to us when we mention a seriously ill family member or a death that we are grieving; how to develop meaningful rituals celebrating a life; and the pain that a life ended by suicide can leave in its wake. Several of us described the impact of living through the AIDS pandemic has had on us.
Thanks to the generosity of QM we had not one, but two chocolate cakes to enjoy. Thanks to the thoughtfulness of others, the dishes were washed and dried and ...
We were a group of seven women who gathered at The Fat Camel Café in Whangarei, NZ, the third time we have gathered at this venue. We don’t ask for RSVP’s, so it’s always surprise as to how many people will attend. I was the facilitator (Jo Moselen) along with support from my colleague Jo Samuel. Being a small group with most people knowing each other or at least acquainted in some way it was a relaxed an intimate gathering where we discussed, End of life choice - how it is and isn't working, the work underway to support an advanced directive for Dementia in ...
After my brother died I sought out music, films and theatre plays on grief, death, loss etc. I came across Bella Beesom's one-woman play "My World Has Exploded A Little Bit" about the deaths of her parents, and in particular father. I went and saw her at the Oval Theatre.
After the play she announced a Death Cafe the following weekend. Never heard of a "death cafe" and registered. Several people signed up, but it ended up only Be;;a and myself chatting. Been to several Death cafe's since and everyone is very uniques and recommendable. Thanks again.
The Hatfield, MA, Senior Center Death Cafe was held on Nov 2, 2023. Fifteen older adults met to discuss death and our common mortal experience over the traditional coffee and cake. Individuals voiced curiosity and a desire to talk about a subject that is often feared and avoided. Topics included the meaning of a "good death", self determined life closure, and planning for one's eventual demise. Ways to discuss one's end of life care wishes with loved ones was explored, as well as using humor to offset the pangs of dying and grief.
Discussion was engaging, spirited and supportive, and those in attendance welcomed this opportunity ...
The Death Cafe was attended by eleven open-hearted people. We sat around the table and took turns sharing thoughts, feelings, experiences, and questions about death, dying, and grief.