Death Cafe write-ups
This, our first Death Café, went very well. Topics that arose included: the significance of pets in our lives; how to reach people who don’t want to talk about death; advanced care planning, living wills and enabling difficult conversations; the law on assisted dying in the UK in the light of the BMA’s recent vote not to oppose change; palliative care; juggling the sometimes diverse wishes of family members in funeral planning.
Feedback was positive and included the following comments: refreshing to talk about death; interesting to listen to others and discover commonalities while respecting their otherness; online experience is okay; fascinating in terms of breadth ...
Death Cafe in hull went amazing with over 10 members some who had never been to a Death Cafe before, all having a great experience with like minded people. The main topic of conversation brought by the members where funeral plans, what to do with cremated remains and palliative care.
The photo includes some of the members who enjoyed the event.
Lori Goldwyn and Jim Kirkpatrick have joined together offering this Death Cafe on the 4th Sunday of the month @ 4PM PDT, Midnight Irish Time.This recent gathering attracted 28 registrants, majority arrived and around half remained for the duration of the 90 minute cafe. Guests from Australia, New Orleans, Conneticut, and CA. Group divided into half using breakout rooms for 55 minutes. Topics included: talking with loved ones, our children and parents about dying and death. Fears of dying and death. A support system arranged for our time of dying. Maintaing our dignity and capacity. End of life relationship with Medical teams.
A calm and peaceful atmosphere throughout ...
We hosted our first Death Cafe Hyde meeting on Tuesday.
20 August 2021 - a small intimate group of 6 of us meeting face 2 face which is a joy these days, despite the wearing of indoor masks. Always fascintating people coming to these events. I think they are already the curious and the 'converted' as they are so willing to share amongst strangers. We talked about
- normalising death, putting one's affairs in order;
- what is an End of Life Doula
- documents to complete (advance care planning)
- death isn't always scaring and caring for the dying is a privilege
- NDE and not being frightened about dying
- new pathways for learning - meditation, Buddhism etc
- the Banshee wail
- books ...
For our August Death Café Iowa, we met via Zoom. Buffy Peters from the Bereavement Professionals Group facilitated the group. There were four individuals who attended the Death Café this month which made for a small group with some great conversation. Two attendees were from other states which lead to other great perspectives!
Death is an experience that elicits many feelings. In this week’s group feelings surrounding death were expressed. Some individuals felt a sense of acceptance, adventure, curiosity, and peace in regards to death. Other individuals associate heartbreak and ‘feeling heaving’ with death. An individual expressed that she doesn’t want to do death alone, but ...
Hello fellow mortals!
Thank you to the 25 people who were able to brave the heat and joined our death discussions during the August Death Café – Hillsborough (DC-H). Welcome to the *10* new folx! It felt so good to see you all “live and in person” for the first time in 17 months. Can you believe that a regular Zoom attendee drove nearly 400 miles from another state with her daughter so they could meet us in person?! Anne gifted attendees decorated hand fans, complete with a choice of optional sugar skull stickers and, wow, did those fans come in handy as we conversed in the warm shade ...
A deep discussion about the silence surrounding death, participants thought this had improved recently. Conversation surrounding Undertakers services and buriel tradistions.
There are things that you plan weeks, or even months, in advance with a great burst of enthusiasm and energy. And then the date comes around and a great number of things have happened in between; unexpected challenges, good things too, and you wonder if you have planned your calendar badly as you aren’t sure you have enough energy for this particular event. Perhaps that’s just me, but it was the case with the virtual Death Café, Debbie & I hosted on Tuesday 10 August 2021. Number two of the North East London series.
How strange then to start an event tired and end it feeling uplifted ...
10 Aug 2021. A small group of 3 of us but what energy, passion, enthusiasm and curiosity! And celebrating a belated Dying to Know Day. Themes discussed included
· Aged care – where death and dying is commonplace but families are still shocked by the suddenness of death;
· where conversations are easily welcomed in all settings of life; and where the dying person may not feel comfortable, or may be fearful, to engage in talking about death (their death) and their own dying; or may not be asked how they are feeling. And often the family/loved ones aren’t asked or supported along the way. (We have a long ...!--[endif]-->!--[if>
8 July 2021 - small group of 4 - but rich discussion. Themes and topics included discussions about: Interesting books
were were reading e.g. “We all know how this ends”; the complexity of grief and loss from a sudden death; that navigating different
family dynamics and organising a funeral can be complex; that different people may need different types of information; and react in
their own way to loss and grief. And knowing a person’s wishes is difficult when they haven’t had discussions or left any instructions
. That there continues to still be pockets of the community where people feel a lot of ...
8 June 2021 - Virtual DC. We shared our experiences about ‘being present’, the importance of demystifying death and dying and
normalising it; how we are curious about Death Cafes and also about engaging in the space; the language and the communication ski
lls that we can use to engage in this interesting area; and that it is often a relief for someone to have the opportunity to have these
discussions which can create an avenue for story-telling and rituals; that health professionals aren’t always skilled at having these
conversations (some more than others). We all are as ‘qualified’ as each other to potentially talk about death and ...
For our July Death Café Iowa we met via Zoom. Buffy Peters from the Bereavement Professionals Group facilitated the group. There were three individuals who attended the Death Café this month which made for a small and intimate group.
The topic of death doulas and the controversy of their titles was brought up. Some may say that death doulas should be more appropriately called death companions, because their tasks differ a little bit from what birth doulas do. In a birth there is a midwife and possibly a doula, but in death there is not someone there necessarily to help you die- so what does that leave the ...
A Death Café was held in the learning commons on the evening on May 24th. 13 students, teachers, and community members gathered to talk about death while drinking tea and eating sweets. This was the first of a series of Death Café events which will be held throughout the coming years. It was a calm, relaxed place for people to come and talk openly about death.
Plans had been made to begin holding Death Cafés starting in 2020, but due to the global pandemic, it was delayed. This Death Café took place taking care to follow corona virus preventative measures.
This first café went well. Participants ...
13 May 2021 - Small group of 5 interesting women spanning a variety of ages, backgrounds and life experiences. We shared our experiences about
- that the experience of dying can be “a beautiful thing”; and the value of ‘holding space’; ‘being present’ and also sharing laughter along the way . All this as long as it is ‘legal, safe, sane and consensual)
- a discussion around unexpected deaths – and a myriad of emotions attached with this ranging from quality of life – if we could choose to die suddenly then wouldn’t it be a wonderful thing? To the impact of unexpected deaths on the living – how we interpret sudden deaths (positive ...