Death Cafe write-ups

Swanage Death Cafe Write up

Posted by peterneall on April 15, 2024, 2:05 a.m.

Seven guests, a host and a facilitator met on the afternoon of Friday April 12th 2024 at The Hub in Swanage.

The facilitator introduced the event with a short history of Death Cafe's and an agreement on Ground-rules. 

THen the discusion included all the guests and topics ranging from fear r of death, terror in the face of it, the joy of being fully present at the death of a loved one nd so on. One guest commented on the joy of simply being able to speak of death without being told to stop.

At the end there was a cllear demand to 'go again' with one ...

Laramie Death Cafe LPCC Write up

Posted by Leeschwa on March 7, 2024, 11:55 a.m.

Our Death Cafe this month covered a great span of topics, from the perspective of today's youth on death and suicide among young people, inequities in nursing care, funeral business and preparations, burial shrouds, mushroom suits and forensic studies programs, on to yes, you do need a bunch of death certificates when the time comes, and as always, the topic of who comes out of hte woodwork on someone's passing arose. 

Look for a Death Cafe LPCC monthly at the minimum moving forward. 

Schuylerville, NY Death Cafe at the Library Write up

Posted by on March 6, 2024, 10:24 a.m.

We had seven of us including myself at our first Death Cafe at the Schuylerville Public Library, and I'd call it a success! The conversation flowed, folks seemed to be very open and excited for the conversation. The tea flowed, the sugary snacks did as well. I left the cafe feeling overwhelmingly grateful for the opportunity to connect and have a conversation about death and dying that felt productive. We laughed, some of us cried, and I am very much looking forward to meeting again! 

Shepherdstown WV Death Cafe: Tea, Cake and Conversation Write up

Posted by Tracy Seffers on March 5, 2024, 2:50 p.m.

Spring is starting to spring up all around us, peeping green from the decay of last year's leaves - life rising up out of death, death giving birth to new life - the eternal cycle coming round again.

Tea and cake were set out for our guests, and as people gathered.

The first topic brought to the table for discussion (thank you, Christine!) was the idea of "delayed" or "displaced" grief. What is it - why is it?  How does it look for different grievers and difference death circumstances?  Is it cultural - individual - communal - self-protective?

Conversation then moved to thinking about which cultures (like the Tibetan Buddhists) "do death" well ...

Santa Cruz Death Cafe Write up

Posted by Carol Morgan on March 4, 2024, 10:47 a.m. 3 comments

Our third Death Cafe of 2024 included 20 guests. There were 17 at each of the previous cafes, clearly there is a need!  Some were new and some had come before.  Introductions were held in the large circle and then conversations continued in 4 smaller circles for 40 minutes. I received positive feedback about the group led discussions as apposed to a meeting with an agenda.

Death Cafe at Leith Write up

Posted by LomondBob on March 4, 2024, 3:33 a.m.

14 people attended. Topics discussed includes assisted dying, mixed heritage practices, availability of family support at the end of life, and the legacy we leave.

All feedback was positive and people enjoyed the event.

Again there was delicious cake.

Virtual Death Cafe Albany, CA USA PST Write up

Posted by JimKirkpatrick on Feb. 26, 2024, 10:20 a.m.

Our Cafe meets the 4th Sunday monthly. Genevieve and Jim have been cohostiing here and earlier in another Death Cafe. Participants from Canada, Midwest, Nor Californnia, NE and SE USA participated. Deep listening punctuated by moments of silence, empathic reactions and open sharing. Genevieve and Jim give thanks for the special space all participants created this day. We give thanks to Death Cafe founders and acknowledge the important contribution of Bernard Cretaz's meeting with John Underwood in the creation of Death Cafe. Please follow this link to a posting by Jon Undeerwood


Shepherdstown WV Death Cafe: Tea, Cake and Conversation Write up

Posted by Tracy Seffers on Feb. 23, 2024, 2:43 p.m. 1 comment

It was another lively gathering in February, fresh off the snowstorms that surprised us!

Discussion centered around how those who are dying  - or caring for those who are dying - may find spirituality/religious traditions comforting or distressing, or anywhere along that spectrum.

The Cafe closed with a reading of Lisel Mueller's lovely poem, "Hope":

"It is the singular gift we cannot destroy in ourselves,
the argument that refutes death . . .
all we know of God. . . .

it is in this poem, trying to speak."


Over tea and homemade cake, it was a lovely gathering, with the promise of  more good conversation to come.

First Tuesdays at Noon - Shepherdstown Public ...

Death Cafe Write up

Posted by elizabeth ellen on Feb. 15, 2024, 8:48 p.m.



16TH NOVEMBER, 2024 






We were a small group of three in a noisy cafe, meeting each other amongst the life of a shopping centre.  Thank you for the other two participants and one for travelling hours to attend our cafe.  


It was a rich conversation as we transversed a wide variety of themes in death and dying.   What is death denial and how is it for me and others?  Death as a mystery and how very personal and individual the experience is with our and others expectations.   Caring for those close to us and how to navigate those needs.  As well as ...

Death Cafe: Hatfield MA Council on Aging Write up

Posted by LCHummel on Feb. 15, 2024, 8:30 a.m.

Our second Death Cafe was held on January 29, 2024 and we titled it "The Conversation Continues". We had 11 individuals attend, some individuals from our prior group as well as new attendees. Spirited discussion ensued about "What is a Good Death?", and burial options in our local area, including some newer innovative approaches such as human composting. Participants also shared emotional experinces related to caring for a dying loved one. The group was engaged and supportive to each other and requested that another death cafe be held in the near future.

San Francisco Peninsula Death Cafe Write up

Posted by jimvanbuskirk on Feb. 12, 2024, 9:20 p.m.

This Death Cafe, an exploratory project, was a success. None of the dozen attendees had ever previously attended a Death Cafe. The conversation was wide-ranging, respectful and rewarding. Everyone seemed enthusiastic about continuing the conversation at subsequent cafes.


1. Wiener Death Cafe Write up

Posted by JELLA JOST on Feb. 3, 2024, 12:52 p.m.

Eine sehr spannende große Gruppe und dazu auch noch jung. Viel Input von der Expertin und der Filmemacherin. Jede und jeder hatte ausreichend Zeit zum Erzählen oder auch nur Zuhören. Die unterschiedlichen Betrachtungen, Erlebnisse und Schilderungen ergreifen mich jedesmal aufs Neue.

Die NY Cheesecake war sensationell! Thanx Walter!

Tucson Friendly & Fearless Death Cafe Write up

Posted by TucsonFFDeathCafe on Feb. 1, 2024, 4:39 p.m.

A wonderful start to 2024 Tucson Death Cafés!


At our virtual meeting we talked a lot about the big goodbye to our beloved animal companions. I was led to use a tapestry of what I think of as the puppy homegoing that day, and one of our attendees had recently lost her beloved dog. In trying to write about this, I had to give up after a dozen tissues and tears blurred my vision. It’s very common to experience the loss of our animal companions as far harder than that of our human friends. The more we can talk about all of our losses with great ...

Newhaven Edinburgh Death Cafe Write up

Posted by LomondBob on Jan. 29, 2024, 3:05 a.m.

14 people attended and chatted in 3 groups. Four had previous experience of Death Cafes and or working with death and dying. Successful event with positive feedback. The Community hub has invited us back for further events.

City of Roses Death Cafe Write up

Posted by nomenoyou1 on Jan. 27, 2024, 7:33 p.m.

Over carrot cake, vegan choclolate cookies and tea 19 of us discussed a range of topics from how climate change might affect how-when we die, what do you say when talking to a friend who is grieving (listen!), and the widespread misperception that dying makes you a saint (it just isn't so!). We discussed the range of feelings that arise after a loved one dies--not.much different than the range of feelings we had when they were alive. We also talked about green burial options in Oregon and SW Washington.

Our next cafe is February 7 at the Friends Meeting House at 6:30 p.m. For ...

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