Death Cafe write-ups
Last Café we talked about vaccines. Our conversation ranged from happy to have had one, eagerly awaiting the opportunity, uncertain and waiting to learn more, to definitely no. This is exactly what I love about Death Cafes, civil conversation, welcoming all points of view, on meaningful life and death matters. Sometimes professionals come to Café and say they’ve come to “learn.” Café guidelines state clearly that besides no counseling or therapy, there is no education or content offered, and no agenda; Cafes are devoid of any particular point of view. So what is a Death Café? It’s an opportunity to come together, air ourselves out, hear ...
Our Death Cafe was attended by 19 people. We had people from other congregations as well as CVUU. There were attendees from the Hampton Roads area, Richmond, VA, and even Vermont! We had one tech person who managed the zoom break out rooms. We started at 7:00 by introducing ourselves and learning about the history and goals of the Death Cafe. At 8:15, we broke into 2 groups of 8 - 9 each where we discussed topics related to end of life. After an hour in small groups, we all joined back together in one large group to summarize and process. Feedback from participants was very positive ...
Hello fellow mortals!
Thank you to those who delved and dipped into our death discussions during the March Death Café – Hillsborough (DC-H) Zoom call! Welcome to the eleven (!) new folx! Zoom offers a different dynamic from meeting in person and allows people to participate from long distances such as, this time, New York, Illinois, Florida, Washington, and even Vancouver, Canada. It was wonderful having four university students join in as part of their Death, Dying, and Bereavement courses. One of them kindly emailed afterward, “I just wanted to let you know that I really enjoyed attending my first Death Cafe. It was so interesting hearing other people’s ...
Great morning spent with 12 participants. Great little venue, wonderful coffee and and an invite from the venue operator to come back again.
Stories and experiences were interesting and diverse.
Carolyn Vaughan - facilitator
We had a wonderful afternoon sharing with 18 people from various walks of life. Stories and beliefs were shared from the heart and the conversation was quite moving.
Caroilyn Vaughan - Facilitator
For our March Death Café Iowa we met on Zoom. Buffy Peters and Hannah Moldovan, our intern, from the Bereavement Professionals Group facilitated the group. There were 12 individuals who attended the Death Café and we even had a participant from North Carolina.
The first topic we focused on was deciding the type of disposition one wants when they die. There are those who want a more natural method of being buried so that they can decompose more naturally. Some individuals do not wish to be cremated for many reasons but some may include religious beliefs, cultural associations, or environmental beliefs as well. The question of why cement ...
14 individuals from Canada, U.S.A. and Europe registered for our conversations on how death shows up in our life, especially when it comes to a death of our beloved pets. Heart felt stories and respectful conversations were shared for over an hour and a half about our common experiences.
One thing I have really loved about hosting a Death Cafe during a pandemic is that we have had guests from all over the world, and they share some brilliant stories and perspectives with us. I think there is something really to be learnt from opening up Death Cafe to the online format. It has meant so many people are able to come together that couldn't before, and I certainly would never have considered an online format to have so many advantages!
A new year and a new Liverpool Death Café!
Over the last few years, Jamie has expertly led Death Café, initially in person and then via Zoom. I have been to quite a few and always had really good evenings, so when Jamie asked me to take over because of other commitments I was very happy to. Thanks Jamie for all your work (and for setting the bar high!)
We met on 27 January via Zoom – a fairly small group of seven, which could have been ten hadn’t some emails ended up in my spam folder. My apologies, and it won’t happen again. Three people will ...
An inspiring conversation, considering dying at home and how to support people with choice. Two people within the group had experienced life changing illness and were very open in disclosing how this had changed their view on life.
For our February Death Café Iowa we met on Zoom. Buffy Peters and Hannah Moldovan, our intern, from the Bereavement Professionals Group facilitated the group. There were 13 individuals who attended the Death Café and participants were from everywhere including Massachusetts, California, and Canada.
The first topic we talked about was Death Doulas. A few participants were either practicing Death Doulas or on the path to becoming Death Doulas. Death Doulas are non-medical aids to individuals towards the end of their death to make sure that what they want to happen is carried out. Doulas keep their clients comfortable during the last stages of death and are there ...
We had a lovely gathering of new and familiar faces alike. It was refreshing to not largely discuss COVID but cover some new topics too including end of life care and facing your own mortality. We continue to see new faces from all around the world and we encourage anyone from any time zone to take part if they would like and are able to.
18 dedicated individuals from across Canada, the USA and England stuck with us as we facilitated our first zoom event. Technical difficulties were had and overcome and almost 2 hours of conversation were shared. What a joy!
So many different perspectives on life and death, on our traditions and rituals being unavailable to use as we support those dying and express our mourning for those who died during the last 10 months of the pandemic.
We will be holding monthly cafes and look with anticipation to our next international gathering.
The November 1 Death Café Oxnard had three attendees. The main topic of discussion was death by overdose, as two of the attendees had recent losses of this sort. It was a very uplifting Café as one of the attendees was getting back the loved one's ashes later that day and shared ideas for celebrating the loved ones life.
“I experienced many emotions during Death Cafe this evening. Listening to others gave me the confidence to open up and share my thoughts and feelings in a safe space.”
“I found it a very interesting experience and there's something so supportive about sharing thoughts on a 'difficult' subject with others. I look forward to the next one.”