Death Cafe write-ups
Oxnard’s second Death Café was well attended, with 14 participans. It was the first Death Café experience for seven of them. Topics discussed included pet deaths, disposition alternatives, children and death, and being a caregiver to the dying. Tea and two cakes were offered, and one person brought a Death Café cookie of doom. There was much more laughter than tears at this Café, and many stayed to talk after the official end.
The Deloraine and Area Palliative Care committee hosted this event in the beautiful new curling rink and community hall complex. It was the perfect venue and the evening was a great success by all accounts. Those in attendance said that they were so pleased to have a safe space to come and talk openly about a topic that we tend to avoid. The committee members provided fabulous snacks and beverages which is always so nice and helps to keep things "real". Almost all of the participants said they would encourage others to attend a death cafe given the opportunity and used words such as calming, helpful, and interesting ...
6 of us attended. The conversation was varied. We discussed berevement and loss. Near death exprience and dying naturally.
We also discussed the venue as last time it had been very noisy, we have decided to stay at the Trinity but have asked to check with staff if a production is on and than maybe use the art gallery.
Crystal and I were very pleased to have the Visalia Times Delta Newspaper focus our efforts in their Inspire Section informing the community about our upcoming Death Cafe alongside another article explaining WHAT a Death Cafe is and how it got started--very helpful.
We had SIX new people at this week's cafe, and others who have expressed interest. Our discussion was lively, informative, and at times, tender. I asked permission from one of the ladies to share the following story:
Great group of women and men with meaningful and interesting discussion about topics surrounding End-of-Life (EOL). I want to share just one story I thought was touching ...
This was my 3rd visit to the Death Cafe in Kendal but this time with the added pleasure of being accompanied by my 85 year old father and my eldest sister and her husband who happened to be staying with us for the week.
Two groups of about 8 people each were formed and I was in one with my father whilst my sister and her husband were in the other. This was our deliberate choice to maximise our discussions as we already discuss the subjects of death and dying amongst ourselves - though not that frequently!
My father found it quite a liberating experience to talk freely to ...
With a new batch of curious Café-ers due to recent newspaper and radio coverage, we kicked off the meeting with a round table of introductions and the question: “What are you here for?” Two prevailing themes emerged: curiosity, and a need to understand how to begin conversations about death.
Dividing the group into two due to size, they began animated discussions about what was on their minds. Death doulas, hospice and palliative care, suicide, and grief were discussed.
Halfway through, so that everyone got a chance to hear different perspectives, I had the groups stretch and shuffle. An understanding that everyone’s coming to the topic of ...
On the 8th May 2019 I hosted my first Death Cafe event at Hoylake Parade Community Centre. It seems to have gone down well, so future events are planned on a bi-monthly basis at various venues on the Wirral and we’ll see how that goes.
The community centre kindly provided us with the space for free. Tea, coffee and cakes were on sale and most of the 24 attendees took advantage of this by making a purchase. I envisage future events to work in the same way.
I posted details of the event on various websites where I could post for free and copied the details to ...
Four of us met for the May meeting of the Colliers Wood Death Café during which we acknowledged Dying Matters and the information event ‘Doing Death Differently - Are We Ready?’ the CWDC hosted at the Tooting Bec Lido Pavilion on Saturday morning.
Two of us had not been to this, or any other Death Café before. Having acknowledged the background to the movement, and the ethos of the meetings, we began to talk about a theme which ran throughout the meeting around forgiveness.
We talked about forgiveness rituals, and how important these might be at the end of life – both for the dying, and for those they leave ...
It is nearly a year since we had our first meeting and this little cafe has gone from strength to strength.
This meeting had 11 people from all walks of life interested in all walks of death. Funeral directors, local coroners court, solicitors, celebrants, a local poet and recently bereaved. Eclectic begins to cover our band.
We always state that it is not a support group but often experiencing a close death triggers thoughts of mortality in ones own life. I think it's reall important to remember the responsibility to keep people safe in the discussions. As a host you don't often know about the people ...
I am extremely interested in attending a session. I find death simultaneously difficult yet fascinating, and feel it would be an incredibly interesting experience to discuss the topic with strangers.
Hoping to be admitted for the session tonight!
this was a wonderful session with 3 people having their first Death Cafe experience. They all said they were keen to keep coming too. There was also a good bunch of attendees who have returned many times now. It is so lovely to facilitate this when so many people get so much out of it. Comments this time include:-
Great opportunity to listen, talk, share
and . . . Always helpful, thank you.
On the second of May, eleven men gathered together in our compassionate community to talk about death and dying, frailty, grief and caregiving, instead of talking about football. It was inspired by the work of ‘Toka gizon taldea’, aiming to search for new ways of masculinity. It was special too because it was held just in Basque language.
We talked about the difficulty to show compassion, and when to get close to a person in grief. And we identified a main tool for it, intuition (that feminine value). We mentioned masculine emotional castration and the lacks of masculine traditional roles.
We talked about the topical and traditional way ...
Good Grief!! I've always liked Charlie Brown;)
Lately the topic of grief has been surfacing and getting my direct attention. Death Cafes are the perfect place to process grief exploring one's thoughts and feelings with others in a small group.
For those who are new to Death Cafes, the goal is to provide space not only for our bodies, but our spirits, where topics like grief can be explored with others. Sharing our grief is healthy and normal with the loss of loved ones--pets included.
Meetings will be held monthly at The Center for Spiritual Living around the corner from Brown's Shoes in beautiful downtown ...
Summary of April 24, 2019 gathering.
Oddly it was funniest Death Cafe we have ever had. We laughed a lot. Talking about the crazy things people do with the cremains of their loved ones, how important it is to say goodbye ...really vicerally no matter if we cremate or do a full funeral. We also talked about freeze dried dobermans (..really...I could not make that up.) The things people do to keep their loved ones - two and four footed friends in their lives can be extreme..and pretty funny.
Ah we humans are entertaining. Yes?
The two poems we read to begin are from my two favorite ...
At the April 24th Death Café, our topics for discussion leaned to the cerebral side. The group opened the discussion by referencing an April 17, 2019 National Post article on scientists restoring brain activity in recently slaughtered pigs, and how that related to Near Death Experiences (NDE’s) and whether we feel anything after we die. Traumatic death came up, and some attendees were yesterday days old when they figured out that bells in Victorian coffins were where the expression “saved by the bell” came from! Talk then went further down the rabbit hole into acid trips and the first law of Thermodynamics, where energy can neither be ...