Death Cafe write-ups
For October’s Death Cafe Iowa we met at Palmers Deli & Market on Ingersoll. Buffy Peters and Becca Suvalsky (members of the Bereavement Professionals Group) facilitated the group. We had three people in attendance, 2 women and 1 man, and participants ranged in ages and professions. Members brought several interesting topics to the group this month.
We have recently noticed a growing number of podcasts that discuss death and dying. One group member started listing to a new podcast called “Last Day” that discusses the opioid epidemic and shares some stories of individual's last day before they died from a drug overdose. Another podcast that was mentioned ...
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Oxnard's 3rd Death Cafe had seven people in attendance. Three had never attended a DC before. Participants discussed the fear of miscarriage and the sort of grief that lingers even after a healthy birth. Participants also talked about sudden, violent death, such as a murder, and how such a death is similar to, yet very different from, more "natural" sorts of deaths. The conversation was very interesting and informative, and a few attendees stayed late to finish discussing their thoughts.
It was a small group this month. None present minded this as it allowed for the group to go deeper in discussion and sharing . Suicide was a topic discussed. We, previous to this meeting had a couple of months that our regular meet up did not run. It was exspressed that the break made people loose momentum for coming. It was all regulars this meeting.
We organized our first Death Cafe on Oct.7th, 2019.
During 3 hours, we talked a lot and discussed a lot about Death.
Participants are from different industries such as : psychological consultant, volunteer of hospice care, professor in university, producer from television station, managerial people from different companies… discussions started from near-death experience, several people who had such experience before shared what “death” like : soul flies out of the body and just like take off your jacket. This start made people feel that death seems not that horrible as expected.
“what will you do if you know you soon come to the end of your life?’ someone ...
We had a full group for our cafe at the Guildhall! We enjoyed various cakes and interesting conversation on a range of issues. Every time is different and yet similar in how easy it is to talk to strangers about death and our concerns.
One couple had expressed interest in training as end of life doulas/ soul midwives and one lady was undergoing training in this so could share her experience.
We discussed examples of loved ones death and how different these were ranging from very peaceful to noisy and traumatic and we realised how little we can influence this sometimes.
People shared their future plans and also ...
We gathered at the airport cafe, The Apron, for what was another thought provoking and stimulating conversation amongst 27 of us. It was a surprising turnout given the weather. We split into two groups and after a round of introductions the conversations ranged from end of life choices, what makes a good death, sharing of personal experiences and stories, near death experiences, body and organ donation and the practicalities around death and dying.
To close we invited everyone to sum up in 3 or 4 words how they were feeling and it was clear everyone was energised and not quite ready to finish the conversation.
With such a ...
Thank you to all that attended this Death Cafe session and special thanks to the team at La Patisserie Ibiza for the warm welcome, lovely tea in teapots and amazing cakes! We will be back! ☕️
This is the third Death Cafe Wirral event that I’ve run.
We were back ay Hoylake Parade Community Centre again, but now with a much-improved refreshment offer in the form of the lovely new Popsy’s Coffee Bar run by Terri and her husband, John. The cafe is brighter, more comfortable and there is now a great range of teas, coffees and other drinks as well as lovely cakes and other goodies on offer. Thanks very much to them for allowing us to meet there free of charge.
There were 19 participants this time and it really was lovely to see that about half of those attending ...
We had our first vineyard Death Cafe at Nissley Vineyard in Pennsylvania. About 15 people attended, and we feasted on a 900lb Dutch Apple cake (maybe a little hyperbole here) in addition to a completely delectable peanut butter chocolate cake. The vineyard is a beautiful life-affirming, natural place, and it mirrored conversation that - though centered on death, dying and everything in between - was life-centric and death positive.
We covered many different topics sharing fears about being alone, one moving out of state requiring additional help caregiving for spouse with Parkinson's, and two women connecting talking about caregiving and making healthcare decisions for a declining spouse.
The POLST form was brought up again this cafe, which is great. I would like to do a class in the near future to review the form closely, line by line, and answer questions along the way--stay tuned:)
Next Death Cafe will be 10/12/19. Let's ...
Although it says this Death Cafe is past, it is ongoing on every second Thursday of the month. It is well-attended.
Our first Death Cafe in Columbia, PA was a success. A small group met at Rosie’s Cafe, where we shared engaging - and often laugh-out-loud funny - conversation while sharing one of our most elaborately decorated cakes to-date.
Unfortunately this event did not post before it took place! However it was a good event, we had a press write up which was great and can be seen here : https://www.romfordrecorder.co.uk/news/health/romford-death-cafe-provides-opportunity-to-tackle-taboo-subject-1-6252177
A small group once again, but I enjoy the smaller groups as much as the larger ones because it can feel like a much closer discussion. Topics covered were quite clinical relating closely to palliative care and how end of life care works. I found it very interesting and learnt a lot, I hope others did too!
We met at Unity Church and Spiritual Center. There were ten of us and a few people who were new to the conversation.
We talked about green burials and places like Circle Santtuary to bury people who are Pagan. We talked about the utility of buying books that were fill in the blank for our care after death.
People discussed what can be done with ashes whether or not they are scattered on land and water or made into diamonds. One person brought up the idea that a box of cremains spilled at home and w geneally agreed that people can hold onto cremains too long and it ...