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College Death Cafe

Posted by Gerry Grossman on April 17, 2019, 11:39 a.m. 1 comment

College Death Cafe

We are hosting a Death Cafe at the local college soon.  We thought that we would take a bit of a different approach to getting interest by posting a "Coming Soon" poster first and then follow up in one week with a date/time/location poster.  We are part of a local non-profit that hopes to start "the conversation" among groups in our city.

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Advice for Future Corpses: Practical Perspectives on Loss, Death and Dying

Palliative nurse, Buddhist practitioner, and New York Times best selling author, Sallie Tisdale, is presenting "Advice for Future Corpses" - a workshop on caring for the dying in Toronto on May 30 - 31. Professionals can use use discount code tisdale75 to recieve $75 off registration. Non-professional can attend this seminar for $100. Please email for more details.

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Wondering about how to hold a death cafe?

Posted by Josefine Speyer on April 12, 2019, 6:38 p.m.

Wondering about how to hold a death cafe?

Wondering about how to hold a death cafe?

Over the years I have often been asked for advice on this.

I like to encourage people and am happy to depart with my bit of wisdom for what it is worth. Writing about it is quite time consuming every time, so when I was asked about this again the other day I decided to post it here in case it is useful to others:

Read all the information on the death cafe website on 'How To Hold a Death Cafe'.
Read 'What a Death Cafe is'.
Read how other people advertise their death cafes and what they say about ...

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Death “Pet” Cafe

Posted by alexandravillaca on April 2, 2019, 1:18 p.m. 1 comment


My name is Alexandra, I’m a paliative care psychologist and I’m starting a work with veterinarians. 


I’d really like to know if it’s possible to organize and host a death cafe to discuss pet’s death issue and I’d also be very ppelased to know your opinion on this matter/idea.


best regards,


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Death Cafe Cancellation

Posted by Katrina Manikad on March 27, 2019, 7:49 a.m.

I just emailed through contact us but thought someone may be able to answer this here.  I need to cancel a scheduled Cafe... does anyone know if there is a way to do this on the site?

Thanks!  Katrina

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Posted by Nicolablack on March 20, 2019, 9:23 a.m.

Could you tell me your policy on accessibility please? This is probably not yhe correct area to write in but I can't find a way to contact the administrators. I'd really like to go to Thornhill but it's in an inaccessible venue. 

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Posted by DeathCafeIowa on March 19, 2019, 3:56 p.m.

Looking for some clarification on what to do with the surveys when they are finished? Do we need to keep them after we have read through them?


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Probate and will solicitors

Posted by Chorltondeathcafe on March 19, 2019, 8:02 a.m.

Hi all,  I've noticed that staff from at least 2 firms of probate solicitors have asked to come to our Death Cafe, with a view to setting up one of their own.

I have welcomed them, of course, but I feel uneasy as to whther it is within the guidelines for professionals to hold a Death Cafe, as professional solicitors ie in their workplace, or introducing themselves as solicitors.

Do you have any experience or views on this, please? 

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Death Cafe Bristol

Posted by MaryTutaev on March 12, 2019, 9:54 a.m. 4 comments

I'm currently working with a team of N.H.S researchers to see if anyone has had the benefit of Death Cafes evaluated by any outside source .....the relevance and wonderful work of the Death Cafes is being recognised now by many outseide groups and depts......

have any practioners been  contacted ? 

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Acute grief from a recent bereavement

Posted by Chorltondeathcafe on March 6, 2019, 5:39 a.m.

Hi all, I have hosted 14 Death Cafes and recently there have been around 45 people at each one (every 6 - 8 weeks).

At the last one, there were 2 people who came who were (separately) experiencing acute grief from recent bereavements.  Luckily, their table were largely able to hold the space and both of them felt very supported, I later heard - lifechangingly so, they said.  

I checked in with all 6 people after the event, by email (as I picked up that it had been intense)  and three of the others on the table had found it an extraordinarily beneficial evening.  One, however, had struggled and went home worrying about the two.  I've been in touch with her and we are still in conversation. 

I now have just recieved an email from someone who has heeded my advice - always sent out with confirmation of a place, to get in touch with me if they are expreriencing acute grief from a recent bereavement.  

  This woman's dad died suddenly, only 2 months ago.  He was an alcoholic and they had a difficult relationship.  The daughter wasn't told he was ill, but he died 3 weeks after being taken into critical care.


I'm just not sure how to reply to the email, as every person in deep grief will be different at the Death Cafe.  

I've so far started an email which includes this:  I’m not a professional grief counsellor at all, but what I can talk about is my experience of the very rare occasions when someone in the depths of acute grief has come to the Death Cafe.  What has tended to happen is one of a few things:

- the grieving person receives a lot of support and care and leaves feeling a lot lighter, having shared and been heard
- or, their group might have a person, or more than one, who feels the need to talk mainly about themselves and their experiences, in which case the grieving person receives some care, but maybe doesn’t feel as supported as they had hoped.
I'm tempted to say something about the fact that it could be too hard for some people to sit with another's grief, but then I think that's what people sign up for when they come to a Death Cafe, so do I really need to warn someone in acute grief about others' upset?
In my info I do say: You may be holding old grief and this may be stirred during conversations in your group.  


Every effort is made to ensure it is a safe space, but it is essentially our community coming together in random groups to talk and to listen.  

There are no staff and no professionals there in their work capacity.

Every group will be different, and, if you come more than once, your experiences will vary.


Any thoughts, anyone?  Do you say yes to everyone, even those in the depths of grief?  

What's your experience when such a person is at your Death Cafe? 


Thank you for reading all this long piece, Debbie

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Question on venue for death cafe

Posted by Karen on March 5, 2019, 11:43 p.m. 1 comment

Hi, I am dialing in details on my first death cafe-getting so much great information and ideas from here already! I have been offerred space at one of the hospices I volunteer with to hold the cafe at their office (they have a room that's used for meetings and training). They understand there is not sponsorship or agenda with a cafe (and agree with this). It would sure make it easier on me- but I wanted to see what people here thought of that? Would it send the wrong message of sponsorship? Many of the coffee places here get pretty crowded on weekends so I thought it might be a comfortalbe (and quiet) place to talk for now. In the warmer months, I'm definitely leaning towards our open spaces here.
I'd really appreciate any thoughts or  advice on that.
If I went ahead with it there, I would share the guide with them (I already relayed the principles behind it , just not verbatim)


Thanks! Karen

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Time, organization

Posted by Uwe on Feb. 21, 2019, 5:18 a.m.

Hey, we are planning to host our first Death Café (in Graz, Austria). We did something like that in a more private setting (but still with a big group) and it was great. For a public event we are still wondering:

- Do you have your discussions in a big group or do you split them in smaller groups. In my experience it makes sense to split groups, so there are not more than, say 8 people per group (what do you think is a good number?).

- How do you handle people who are late? We are wondering how strict we should be on punctuality. On the one hand we don't want to exclude people who are (very) late, on the other hand they might disturb ongoing conversations - especially if they have already gotten a little more intimate and personal. I don't know if that ever happens in a public Death Café.

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Posted by ClaireER on Feb. 13, 2019, 6:19 a.m. 1 comment


planning to hold death cafes early April. I know I can post details here but is there a poster template I can use to send to relevent people/orgs?

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Ice Breakers

Posted by Beth Maher on Jan. 28, 2019, 7:14 p.m. 1 comment

Ice Breakers

I am hosting my first death cafe this week and would appreciate ideas of how to get a conversation going. I plan to start by reminding the participants that this is not a grief support group.  I thought I would then ask folks what inspired them to come to the cafe and then see where it goes.  Any suggestions  of how to start the conversation from more experienced practitioners?

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Image resources

Posted by Chelsea on Jan. 16, 2019, 5:12 a.m. 1 comment

Hello.  I'm new to Death Cafe and working with two others to set up an event in my area (Winchester, Hampshire, UK).  Just wondered if there are any Death Cafe resources such as stock images available that we can use for posters, social media etc?  Don't want to reinvent the wheel if we don't need to.


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