Death Cafe profile for nomenoyou1
With Ellen Simmons
Dec. 14, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
Nov. 9, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
Oct. 12, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
Sept. 14, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
Aug. 10, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
July 13, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
June 8, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
May 11, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
April 13, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
March 9, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
Feb. 9, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Ellen Simmons
Jan. 12, 2025, 4.30 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe Portland OR
Posted by nomenoyou1 on Sept. 1, 2024, 10:32 p.m.
18 of us gathered in the Sun Room of the Leaven Community on Northeast Killingsworth for our 17th consecutive monthly Death Cafe. We broke out into two tables for a free-flowing discussion as well as tea, carrot cake, and vegan cookies.
At my table we talked at length about the difficulties of coping with the death of a family member who was not loving or was abusive. One person offered a moving description of her near death experience. We discussed the difficulties of assuring that our advance directives for end of life care are actually repsected by care providers. Several expressed concern about the challenges of ending life ...
With David Snyder and TBD
Dec. 28, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder and TBD
Nov. 23, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder and TBD
Oct. 26, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder and TBD
Sept. 28, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder and TBD
Aug. 31, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder and TBD
July 27, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder and TBD
June 22, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder and TBD
May 25, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder and TBD
April 27, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on Jan. 27, 2024, 7:33 p.m.
Over carrot cake, vegan choclolate cookies and tea 19 of us discussed a range of topics from how climate change might affect how-when we die, what do you say when talking to a friend who is grieving (listen!), and the widespread misperception that dying makes you a saint (it just isn't so!). We discussed the range of feelings that arise after a loved one dies--not.much different than the range of feelings we had when they were alive. We also talked about green burial options in Oregon and SW Washington.
Our next cafe is February 7 at the Friends Meeting House at 6:30 p.m. For ...
With David Snyder and Jay Bettale
March 18, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder
Feb. 7, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on Jan. 1, 2024, 10:34 a.m.
Our last City of Roses Death Cafe of 2023 was attended by 19 people. We enjoyed a lively discussion of how death has touched us--loss of a childhood friend, sudden loss of a loved one who falls and is dead less than a day later, loss of a parent, a sibling, a chlld. One participant described living through the darkest times of the AIDS pandemic, and then living with those memories.
As usual, we talked about how hard it can be to discuss death: one participant invited a friend who responded that they didn't like the sound of "Death Cafe." Another invited a friend who has a ...
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on Nov. 19, 2023, 6:46 p.m.
Saturday afternoon 24 of us gathered for tea, cake and gluten free cookies. Our large group touched on the difficulty some people have responding to us when we mention a seriously ill family member or a death that we are grieving; how to develop meaningful rituals celebrating a life; and the pain that a life ended by suicide can leave in its wake. Several of us described the impact of living through the AIDS pandemic has had on us.
Thanks to the generosity of QM we had not one, but two chocolate cakes to enjoy. Thanks to the thoughtfulness of others, the dishes were washed and dried and ...
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on Oct. 30, 2023, 1:08 p.m.
Another bright sunny Saturday in Portland, another afternoon of sharing, supporting and connecting around death and dying. Amber facilitated our discussion--kept it moving and kept it open.
Fear was a big part of the conversaion--family members who fear a parent's death, our own fear of death (or is it of suffering while we are dying?). We celebrated this opportunity to talk openly about death and dying. The silence around this topic in our culture is not helpful. We recognized that there is no time to waste, no time to "mess" around.
Chocolate cake was well received.
We meet again on November 18, 2pm at the Leaven Community ...
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on Oct. 1, 2023, 5:08 p.m.
We enjoyed tea, cake and cookies (or biscuits, if you prefer!) yesterday on a bright, beautiful Portland afternoon.
A poem by John O'Donohue launched a lively, heartfelt, and compassionate discussion of the different ways that we grieve. We discussed the use and limits of Oregon's Assisted Suicide law. We shared our different experiences with end of life care in hospitals and the lack of readily available information about what the final days and hours of life might look like. We discussed what a gift it would be to our families if we cleaned out our stuff before we die: https://www.thespruce.com/swedish-death-cleaning-4801461
Before we ...
With Amber Wolf & David Snyder
March 30, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Amber Wolf & David Snyder
Feb. 24, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Amber Wolf & David Snyder
Jan. 27, 2024, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Cafe is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on Aug. 29, 2023, 3:56 p.m.
Today we discussed a wide range of topics including dealing with funeral homes when overwhelmed with grief and the importance of planning for our own death and leaving clear, readily accessible information and instructions for our families (passwords, insurance, bank accounts, what to do with our body . . . Once again we acknowledged the difficulty of discussing death given that it’s seems to be a taboo topic—several people voiced heartfelt gratitude for this opportunity to discuss death openly and calmly. Several people said that discussions with adult children can be difficult. One participant described the valuable services provided by a death doula for their dying spouse and the ...
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on July 30, 2023, 8:14 p.m.
Our July City of Roses Death Cafe was filled with beautiful insights, exchanging of resources, and personal storytelling. There were a total of 14 of us in attendance -- our largest group yet! A few topics that came up in discussion were the evolution and impacts of the funeral industry on our society, alternative and eco-concious burials, the language we use to discuss death and dying, and what it means to die a "good death".
Looking forward to our next Death Cafe on August 26th at the Leaven Community Center. Hope to see you there!
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on June 25, 2023, 5:02 p.m.
Our June City of Roses Death Cafe was small, but we had a far-ranging discussion of death and dying. In particular we discussed how these topics come up in family--as well as resistance to discussing them at all.
Looking forward to our next Death Cafe on July 29 at the Leaven Community.
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on May 30, 2023, 8:59 p.m.
Ten people attendied our second Death Cafe on Saturday May 27, including three who were also at our first Cafe in April. It was great to have both continuity and new voices in the room. Two hours went by quickly, first checking in with why each of us was there, and then digging a bit deeper into some of the topics that came up.
Looking forward to monthly Cafe's at the Leaven Community, the next one on Saturday June 24.
Death Cafe write up: City of Roses Death Cafe
Posted by nomenoyou1 on April 29, 2023, 11:41 p.m. 2 comments
City of Roses Death Café had a great first meeting at the Leaven Community center on a beautiful sunny day in NE Portland. There were 9 total community members in attendance -- all but one had never been to a Death Café before. Conversation flowed easily, connections were made, and there was plenty of tea and homemade desserts to go around. Discussion topics ranged from personal stories about impactful/meaningful deaths, how keeping death closeby informs how we want to live our lives, transmuting and alchemizing grief in the body, and much more.
We look forward to our next meeting on May 27th from 2pm-4pm at the community center.
With Jay Bettale & David Snyder
Dec. 30, 2023, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
WE REGRET THAT WE MUST CLOSE RESERVATIONS FOR THIS DEATH CAFE AS WE HAVE REACHED OUR ROOM'S CAPACITY.
WE WILL BE POSTING ADDITIONAL DEATH CAFES SCHEDULED IN JANUARY, FEBRUARY ...
With Amber Wolf & David Snyder
Nov. 18, 2023, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Café is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Jay Bettale & David Snyder
Oct. 28, 2023, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Café is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Jay Bettale & David Snyder
Sept. 30, 2023, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Café is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Jay Bettale & David Snyder
Aug. 26, 2023, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Café is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Jay Bettale & David Snyder
July 29, 2023, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Café is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With Jay Bettale & David Snyder
June 24, 2023, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Café is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
Practitioners question: Death Cafe Approval
Posted by nomenoyou1 on April 6, 2023, 2:56 p.m. 3 comments
How long does it typically take to get a Death Cafe approved and added to the website? Been waiting a couple
weeks . . .
With Jay Bettale & David Snyder
May 27, 2023, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Café is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...
With David Snyder & Jay Bettale
April 29, 2023, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (PST)
Accepts donations
A Death Café is an open and respectful conversation about the topic of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. We will introduce ourselves, including what brought each of us ...