Death Cafe Practitioners Page
Wow! Hosted our first Death Cafe (forgot to take pics!) and we had 12 people show up!! It was an amazing night, good feedback (some good, some concerns) and even "so, when is the next cafe?". We now have our second cafe booked for June 19th, with a break in through summer. There was talk about having guest speakers come from our local First Nations. Anyone else been asked about people coming to 'share info'? I've explained the whole concept (evening started out talking about the history of the Death Cafe's to give people a better understanding) but people are still curious about rituals and such. Any suggestions around this? Maybe just placing a poster at the Government House that the cafe is happening and if someone from the area wants to come, ask questions??
Really looking forward to our next cafe, June 19th. Thanks for your suggestions in advance.
Heather
Hi, my name is Angela and I facilitated my first Death Cafe about a month ago.
When I asked for permission at the Cafe I chose, it drawed my attention that one of the questions they asked before agreeing was what kind of people usually show up at this events. Kidding, one of them asked if suicidal people arrived. It kept me thinking that comments like that –far from being mischevious, but rather clumsy– show the tabu around talking about death.
Very few people showed up, we were only six: one was my dad, another one was my boyfriend, and the last person joined us after hearing what ...
Does it matter if a death cafe is held in a normal, commercial, cafe, especially if the death cafe part of it cannot be segregated from the main part of the cafe?
We have our 5th upcoming cafe in about a week. It seems that this will be attended by quite a few people compared to the others I have hosted. I will have the host set up tables with 6-8 chairs at each and it sounds like we may have 5 or 6 tables. I will do an introduction to the entire group but then plan to have myself and one other experienced facilitator rotate around the room and trouble shoot. I am starting to think that I may need a facilitator at each table. What do you all think? Are there some ground rules that I can give to one person at each table and kind of "deputize" them as volunteer facilitators?
upcoming death cafes not appearing in search
Posted by Jackie Yaeger on April 12, 2018, 7:56 p.m. 3 comments
i submitted a form for an upcoming death cafe a couple of weeks ago but it is not showing up yet when I do the search.
optional sign-up list for future death related events
Posted by Jackie Yaeger on April 12, 2018, 7:52 p.m.
We are having our 5th and 6th death cafes this spring in my town of La Crosse, WI. There seems to be great momentum and a hunger for more information expressed at our Death Cafes. I would like to offer some free seminars on death and dying at a different time and place. Is it okay to have a sign-up list for people who want more information on death related infomational activites in the area? Also, what are the rules about posting about these events on the local death cafe facebook site? Thanks.
Hi!
My name is Jamie and I am steering a new public health outreach project on death and dying at the Institute for Palliative Care in Lund, Sweden.
The project is called 'Death Ed' and it tries to open up fun and creative ways to explore what mortality means, so that we can all feel more empowered to make choices about our healthcare in the end of life.
Our program includes Death Cafes, film screenings, public lectures, art workshops, and much more!
We have also started a 'Storybook' where we collect stories from diverse individuals and communities in Sweden who have something interesting to say about death and dying from interdisciplinary and multicultural perspectives.
It would be great to get more readership for the storybook! Please take a look and share your thoughts on our blog. You can find the project at:
DeathEducationLund.com
And please contact me if you would like to know more!
Dear all,
I am holding a cafe for the first time in Gothenburg, Sweden tomorrow Tuesday March 20. I run a funeral home and so that is the venue. I was supposed to hold the cafe with a friend who’s also a grief councelor but she has now fallen sick. Instead another friend who practises family law will help out. I still feel a bit lonely in this and nervous, so would really appreciate advice and some pointers. I could of course call it off but I really don’t want to. Press might come and most importantly, it is just time to have these talks now - I’ve been wanting to have them since my mum died 7 years ago.
Look forward to all your prompt replies - thanks so much!
Jenny-Ann
I am in the process of starting a Death Cafe in my small home town of Esperance WA. I have a venue and almost decided on a day, but I'm wondering if I can copy and paste a selected photo from the gallery to use for advertising and/or our own Facebook page of that's required. Thank you, Sue
We are interested in hearing from other Death Cafe facilitators on how they rein in a guest who monopolizes the conversation at the Cafe. What are techniques or statements you use to allow other people to speak?
Hi there, can you confirm please is it ok to sign post people to organisations eg Cruise, Samaritans. Many thanks
Dot
Found a location, picked a date, now the flyers and continuing to fill out the start a death cafe form. Questions: Can I start to fill out the form and update it later? I've backed out of the form a couple of times because I don't have what I would like for all the facilitators. I don't want to delay listing or not have that info available. Also do you have a QR code that points to the Death Cafe website and if not can we put one on our flyers for our Death Cafe?
Good morning!
my name is Caitlin and I’m hoping to start a Death Cafe in San Luis Obispo county, CA. I’m a bit hazy though on the guidelines regarding the dissemination of info and materials. I’ve sort of been canvassing folks in my area to get a sense of what they would like from a group like this and aside from having a safe and welcoming space to talk about death and dying, they all were interested in getting information on their options for disposition (cremation, burial practices, eco-burials, etc) as well as reading books regarding death/dying/grief. Is that not appropriate under the DC guidelines? I very much want to “do this the right way” so some clarification would be much appreciate!
thank you all for your wonderful work!
-Caitlin
Hi all,
I'm a little confused and am hoping you might clarify something for me.
I've hosted 8 Death Cafes over the past year, ranging from 12 people to 34, and it's become a regular event that the community looks forward to.
I'm a funeral celebrant but as far as I understand it, the 'rules' of the DC movement are that we don't talk about our work or give topics for discussion or provide information.
I have abided by those 'rules' strictly, despite wishing that I could share some of my knowledge, things I've learned.
In fact, I'm wondering whether, in order to share valuable information, I might need to call the evenings something else and lose out on supporting the DC movement, which would be a shame as I value it enormously.
I'm confused because this morning I have read (on Google) a newspaper report about a Death Cafe, run by a funeral celebrant. (I don't want to post the link as I'd like to preserve the celebrant's privacy.)
The report says, "Tonight the discussion mainly revolves around funerals, burial and cremation – the importance of sharing our wishes, ways to discuss this with relatives, and curious bits of information about the rules and regulations on what can be put in a coffin: mobile phones yes, but the batteries must be removed; favourite biscuits are fine.
We discuss the merits of various types of coffin and I learn that people can be buried on private land – providing certain regulations and requirements are adhered to. Some people even have the ashes of a dear departed one made into jewelry or mixed into the ink of a new tattoo."
So, this sounds as if information is being given, and that there is a suggested topic for the evening.
Would you please clarify if this is acceptable to the DC movement, to lead a DC in this way?
Many thanks,
Debbie
djonescelebrant@gmail.com
How do I save a template to use for listing future death cafes to save having to enter information repeatedly???
Thanks
Vicki