Death Cafe Practitioners Page
I have run a few Death Cafes now and almost every time I have had feedback from some people saying they'd find it helpful to have some prompts or questions. I have never done this, as I'm aware of the guidelines, but I can see how it might be helpful for some people who want to talk about death but don't know what they want to talk about specifically.
Has anyone had similar feedback? How have you dealt with it? Have you renamed your Death Cafe to something other than Death Cafe and had things like questions/prompts?
Hi there,
I would like to host a death cafe in Munich, Germany in order to raise awareness. I have a practice for psychotherapy and would like to host the meeting in one of my practice rooms as it is free of cost and large enough. However, I read your policy and was wondering if holding the meeting at my practice would create any conflict of interest (according to your rules). I would not promote myself obviously, but the room is in my practice location. Thanks.
Juli
hi there
I wonder if anyone can help? Im hosting a death cafe at a venue that has its own magazine - and they have asked me to be interviewed for it. There are questions about death cafe so I can answer them and give all the info on the guidelines/ history/ how to start one etc but there are also some personal questions on my opinions about death etc. The magazine is for the venue only and will not be available at the death cafe for the participants. Is this ok? and does anyone have any advice re guidelines and press?
many thanks
Hi I wanted to ask you about promoting a Death Cafe. Our main purpose is to educate the community on death and a place for individuals to talk about this subject. We are a funeral home and we sponsor the event at our local coffee house. We do use our advertisment avenues to promote the events in our local magazines and newspapers. We are not using this to promote our business and we park our identities at the door, this is another avenue of community programs we support and sponsor in our area. By using our logo in our ads, does this violate your guidelines?
We are hosting a Death Cafe at the local college soon. We thought that we would take a bit of a different approach to getting interest by posting a "Coming Soon" poster first and then follow up in one week with a date/time/location poster. We are part of a local non-profit that hopes to start "the conversation" among groups in our city.
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Wondering about how to hold a death cafe?
Posted by Josefine Speyer on April 12, 2019, 6:38 p.m. 1 comment
Wondering about how to hold a death cafe?
Over the years I have often been asked for advice on this.
I like to encourage people and am happy to depart with my bit of wisdom for what it is worth. Writing about it is quite time consuming every time, so when I was asked about this again the other day I decided to post it here in case it is useful to others:
Read all the information on the death cafe website on 'How To Hold a Death Cafe'.
Read 'What a Death Cafe is'.
Read how other people advertise their death cafes and what they say about ...
hi!
My name is Alexandra, I’m a paliative care psychologist and I’m starting a work with veterinarians.
I’d really like to know if it’s possible to organize and host a death cafe to discuss pet’s death issue and I’d also be very ppelased to know your opinion on this matter/idea.
best regards,
Alexandra
I just emailed through contact us but thought someone may be able to answer this here. I need to cancel a scheduled Cafe... does anyone know if there is a way to do this on the site?
Thanks! Katrina
Could you tell me your policy on accessibility please? This is probably not yhe correct area to write in but I can't find a way to contact the administrators. I'd really like to go to Thornhill but it's in an inaccessible venue.
Looking for some clarification on what to do with the surveys when they are finished? Do we need to keep them after we have read through them?
Hi all, I've noticed that staff from at least 2 firms of probate solicitors have asked to come to our Death Cafe, with a view to setting up one of their own.
I have welcomed them, of course, but I feel uneasy as to whther it is within the guidelines for professionals to hold a Death Cafe, as professional solicitors ie in their workplace, or introducing themselves as solicitors.
Do you have any experience or views on this, please?
I'm currently working with a team of N.H.S researchers to see if anyone has had the benefit of Death Cafes evaluated by any outside source .....the relevance and wonderful work of the Death Cafes is being recognised now by many outseide groups and depts......
have any practioners been contacted ?
Hi all, I have hosted 14 Death Cafes and recently there have been around 45 people at each one (every 6 - 8 weeks).
At the last one, there were 2 people who came who were (separately) experiencing acute grief from recent bereavements. Luckily, their table were largely able to hold the space and both of them felt very supported, I later heard - lifechangingly so, they said.
I checked in with all 6 people after the event, by email (as I picked up that it had been intense) and three of the others on the table had found it an extraordinarily beneficial evening. One, however, had struggled and went home worrying about the two. I've been in touch with her and we are still in conversation.
I now have just recieved an email from someone who has heeded my advice - always sent out with confirmation of a place, to get in touch with me if they are expreriencing acute grief from a recent bereavement.
This woman's dad died suddenly, only 2 months ago. He was an alcoholic and they had a difficult relationship. The daughter wasn't told he was ill, but he died 3 weeks after being taken into critical care.
I'm just not sure how to reply to the email, as every person in deep grief will be different at the Death Cafe.
I've so far started an email which includes this: I’m not a professional grief counsellor at all, but what I can talk about is my experience of the very rare occasions when someone in the depths of acute grief has come to the Death Cafe. What has tended to happen is one of a few things:
Every effort is made to ensure it is a safe space, but it is essentially our community coming together in random groups to talk and to listen.
There are no staff and no professionals there in their work capacity.
Every group will be different, and, if you come more than once, your experiences will vary.
Any thoughts, anyone? Do you say yes to everyone, even those in the depths of grief?
What's your experience when such a person is at your Death Cafe?
Thank you for reading all this long piece, Debbie
Hi, I am dialing in details on my first death cafe-getting so much great information and ideas from here already! I have been offerred space at one of the hospices I volunteer with to hold the cafe at their office (they have a room that's used for meetings and training). They understand there is not sponsorship or agenda with a cafe (and agree with this). It would sure make it easier on me- but I wanted to see what people here thought of that? Would it send the wrong message of sponsorship? Many of the coffee places here get pretty crowded on weekends so I thought it might be a comfortalbe (and quiet) place to talk for now. In the warmer months, I'm definitely leaning towards our open spaces here.
I'd really appreciate any thoughts or advice on that.
If I went ahead with it there, I would share the guide with them (I already relayed the principles behind it , just not verbatim)
Thanks! Karen