Death Cafe write-ups
A movement that started 8 years ago has made it to the North Country, and North Creek in particular. Join us for this inaugural event while eating cake from Cafe Sarah!
This death cafe was poorly attended but lively discussion ensued. There were five people. We elected to not hold a death cafe during the month of holidays, December, to avoid the same.
An excellent meeting to day with three of us. Interzone was closed for repairs (never saw that before) so we left a note on the door and reconvened down the way at Clodfelters.
The conversation orbited around issues of individual autonomy and disclosure about life and death issues.
In good spirit,
Last night's Death Cafe Corvallis meeting was a well attended (four steady members) and vigorous discussion of the emptiness of loss and the ethics of last wishes.
12 people took part in December 19th Death Cafe (10 women and 2 men). The following points were addressed:
· The need of a different way t say good bye, beside Church.
· The importance of leaving the death as a process.
· The sensation that death doesn’t exist, that death people are with us and we can feel them, while we remember them.
· The way that previous Death Cafes are helping people to live the last days of their relatives.
· When a relative dies, different rolls in the family change.
· When we lose the parents, we remain orphan.
· The importance of showing and include children in illness, suffering and ...
Our December 12th Death Café – Hillsborough (DC-H) was a wonderful group discussion – Thank you to those who came and contributed! We delved into several topics, asked questions, and shared some of our experiences. It was quite a philosophical Death Café! Below is a brief summary about our third event (different subjects marked with an ‘*’), followed by details about the next DC-H on 01/09/2019.
*We each participated in providing two or three words that describe our attitude about death. They included the following: open, accepting, curious, prepared, reluctant, ambivalent, respect, community, and “FOMA” fear of missing out (on what happens in the world you lived in ...
On December 16, 2018 our Cafe met from 2 pm to 4 pm, and was attended by 10 people. We discussed loss, grief and the influence of religion on attitudes toward death. Some words that attendees used to describe their experience included: Delightful; inspiring; thought-provoking; intimate;helpful; and friendly.
This Cafe is now entering its fifth year; it has been a joy and a blessing to host and facilitate these gatherings. As one person wrote, "So nicely set up and facilitated; thank you! I look forward to coming back!"
Our date was at the usual place and time. In this seventh edition, a group of people (13) from Zarautz and other surrounding villages got together around some coffee and tea cups and a cake. This time, male presence was more numerous (6) than usually. Is something changing?
After introducing ourselves and sharing expectations, the first person who began speaking made this sentence: “I laugh of death, I’m not afraid of her”. Another one says to be angry with death, because of having brought her mother when she was a child. There are people who recognize their fear in front of death, each of them from a ...
We held the first Death Cafe in Kyiv for a party of 7 guests. It was a fun, emotional, thought-provoking event.
We spoke about:
- contemporary death culture in Ukrainian society and families. The phenomenon of silence, surrounding the issue
- fear of loss vs. fear of death
- end of life choices
- losing people, losing animals, love and loss
- rituals and traditions of death
We laughed a lot, cried a little and chowed on chocolate cake.
We held a Death Cafe in Hoylake, Wirral, at Nine Leaves Cafe, with 100s of varieties of loose leaf tea and wonderful cake!
6 people attended with the feedback being that the venue was 'relaxed and informal' and "It was good to hear about individual experiences of death and share these openly and honestly".
Thanks to all the lovely folk who attended. We all agreed it was a special space and look forward to holding another in the Spring of 2019.
A group of six people met on our last meetingof the year and wondered what the 2019 would bring. Had we learnt anything from our discussions that would help us in known death and dying scenarios that might be impending? We talked about how to deal with death, dying and loss at Christmas and when death does not always mean sadness and how family dynamics can change for the better or worse after a parent , particularly the last one dies.
Not a soul came to this one. The holidays are a hard time for people so I am going to try this again after christmas. However not all was lost. My 5 year old had some great questions about death and dying. He asked why we have to die? Also where do we go when we die?
I did explain that we die because it is apart of our life cycle and all things die eventually. I looked up some plant life cycle and insect life cycle videos. It was the best way I could show him so that he would understand.
Where we go, I explaind for ...
We meet this time at The Community Room at The Bethlehem Public Library from 6:30-8pm. We had 19 folks there and this time meet in groups of 4 at tables. One person told me they enjoyed the 4 instead of 6 we had in groups last time.We again had many new faces and nearly half were returning friends.
When the groups spokesperson shared the topics had been:
The After Life can be whatever you imagine it to be and what you bring to it.
It is not abnormal to often think and talk about death.
After death communications and messages.
How children process death.
See you ...
We held our last Death Cafe for this year in the spot where we held our first one just about 2 months ago at Gopher Creek Coffee Company. The atmosphere was welcoming and comfortable complimented with delicious treats and beverages. There were 16 people including 4 men which was awesome. Small group discussions were followed by larger group discussions/sharing/questions.
The evaluations have been very positive and encourages us moving forward. People want to have a venue to talk and listen openly about death and dying. It has been described as enlightening, relaxing, uplifting, and interesting. We will take a break for the holiday season but are ...
On an evening with hoar frost and fog in the air 20 people gathered for the first ever Elkhorn Death Cafe. Our host venue the Elkhorn Creamee had prepared some delicious lemon pie and carrot cake to enjoy alongside great conversation and a cuppa.
People from the area had heard of these cafes and were curious so we had a great turn out of various ages and stages. It was great! Everyone has been talking about how much they have appreciated the event and the opportunity to come together and just talk.....and listen! We will be doing more DC in the area in the new year and ...