Death Cafe Resource Library

My father is dying

Posted by Passenger on Dec. 29, 2018, 5:02 p.m. 2 comments

I'm nearly 40 so old by other peoples measures but my dad is dying. He has had a brain tumor for 2 years and now he is lying in a death bed. He will not recover. He will never speak to me again. He will die soon. I mean in the next week. And I feel weak. I'll miss Him xx

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Look for Me in the Stars

Posted by lookformeinthestars on Nov. 11, 2018, 3:11 p.m. 3 comments

Look for Me in the Stars


I've created a 40 day online program for death, grief and loss. The program consists of daily yoga + meditation practices, creative exercises, art, poetry and music. I lost my Mother when I was a teenager and then my Father about five years ago (when I was 31). 

This is a passion project and I've launched a kickstarter to get it off the ground. 


Maureen Walsh 

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Send messages and gifts during and after death.

Posted by leg8cy on Nov. 1, 2018, 11:59 a.m.

Send messages and gifts during and after death.

Leg8cy was created due to the uncertainty of life.  You can send messages and gifts dated in the future that will be sent after your death.  This website was created because my brother in law passed away at a young age due to cancer.  He left behind a 6 year old daughter and I think he would have loved to leave her some messages.  Can you imagine if her dad left her a message for every birthday, how important that would be to her.  Leg8cy offers a free messaging service.  

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Thursday, October 18

Sema Foundation

Chandler, Arizona

Death is one of the few inevitable truths all living beings face and experience. It’s also one of the most challenging topics to talk about. This event brings together varied professional, individual and faith-based perspectives on death and dying.

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Night Swallowtails

Posted by Lis Horwich on Aug. 21, 2018, 2:37 p.m.

Night Swallowtails

A lovely collection of poems by Andrena Yeats ( a freind of mine). As the press realse from Macmillan says:


"When I first met Andrena she was dealing with her grief in a positive and creative way by composing a series of poems. I was struck by how honest they were, and how they progressed in stages through all aspects of human emotion.

Her vision is that her collection, Night Swallowtails, and the process of its creation will resonate with others going through similar circumstances and help them as it has her.

We are deeply grateful to Andrena for choosing us as one of the charities to benefit from ...

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Posted by smcwhinn on Aug. 20, 2018, 2:15 a.m.

FuneralPartner is a new tool to help people create and share funeral items and memorials - Obituaries, Funeral Programs, Eulogies, Cards, Tribute Slideshow, and a lasting Memorial Page.

You can use FuneralPartner to prepare a funerral in advance. It's easy to use and you can share what you create through email and social media and print what you need.

FuneralPartner is a great new tool that empowers people to think about and arrange a funeral and memorial.

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Cake | Free End-of-Life Planning Tool

Posted by bleosz on July 23, 2018, 5:47 p.m.

Cake | Free End-of-Life Planning Tool

Cake is a free digital tool that helps you proactively discover, store, and share your end-of-life preferences with loved ones. 

Create or upload important planning documents, including:

  • a health care proxy
  • a living will
  • an advance care plan
  • a will
  • a funeral plan
  • a legacy plan

Your preferences and documents are stored securely in a HIPAA-compliant cloud so they can be accessed whenevver and wherever they may be needed. 

Share your profile with loved ones to make sure they know what is important to you, and to make it easier for them to tie up loose ends after you're gone.

Planning is gift to yourself and your ...

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Have the crucial conversation

Posted by huunuu123 on June 13, 2018, 11:06 a.m.

Have the crucial conversation

Hello there, 

We have a website that allows people to plan for their funeral, to be remembered how they want to be. It's a free service to use. We want people to be able to have the crucial conversations, in a way that makes it easy to share with their loved ones. People can also choose how to plan for their life with lots of bucket list ideas.

We also have lots of blogs around dying which can be found here: and we interview people in the business too.

Hope this is of some interest to you and your followers.

All the ...

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Dying Matters Poem

Posted by RachelMc on May 7, 2018, 8:46 a.m.

National Dying Matters week comes around every May. It is a time for us all to stop and think about our futures. Death will come to us all one day. Talking about it will not make it happen sooner; it will just mean that we and our loved ones are more prepared for it. We can legally appoint people to speak for us and make decisions on our finances and health if at any point we are unable to do this for ourselves. Planning our funerals can give comfort to our families, knowing our favourite readings or music is included. Writing our wills makes life much easier for those left behind. Dying matters. Let's get it right. 
Dying matters…
It’s got to happen one day;
Let’s hope it won’t be soon. 
It’s good to talk about it,
That elephant in the room.
Let’s make the most of living
Enjoy it while we can;
Let’s run and jump, dance around,
But also start to plan. 
Then when our bodies weaken
And can’t run any more,
Slow it to a walk or stroll,
Consider what’s in store. 
Then when time’s getting shorter,
We’re bound to beds or chairs,
Let’s read and write, paint and draw,
And sort out our affairs. 
There’s Powers of Attorney,
For finances or health, 
Funerals and written wills
To say who gets our wealth. 
For once our time is over, 
If we’ve talked it all through,
It’s better for our loved ones;
They’ll know just what to do. 
Rachel McCoubrie 2018
Twitter RachelMcCoubrie@McCoubrieRachel

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Live Life for Today and Plan for Tomorrow

Posted by rickon on April 7, 2018, 6:55 a.m. 1 comment

Live Life for Today and Plan for Tomorrow

Plan for tomorrow - please don't wait - it may be too late! This link will allow you to download a free Advanced Information pack that I designed following the deaths of 4 relatives for which I was executor. Completion of this document will be a gift to your family and will be essential if you have a serious illness, dementia, stroke and when you die. It can be completed on-line and saved on to a USB drive, or printed and then completed by hand. 1000's have been downloaded over last 12 months.

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Mother's Grief orientations booklet

Posted by OngAmadaHelena on April 6, 2018, 11:29 a.m.

The purpose of this booklet is to detail recommendations of good practices in relation to maternal grief and bereavement in search of establishing a dialogue about the loss, breaking the taboo and the silence about grief.The objective is also to help all the mothers that go through this tragedy to have access to information on the course of the grieving process in a practical and easy-to-understand way, which will help them to become more aware of their needs and their feelings, stimulating an improvement in the quality of life after the loss and thus preventing complications associated with mourning. We also intend to emphasize the importance of social and family ties in the process, awakening empathy and helping them to better understand the needs of these mothers so that they can succeed in getting the new reality adapted.

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The Legacy,


My family loved me very much ,

and taught me well to share,

And I am able yet to give,

though I am not there,


Mourn me not my family;

my spirits still in you,

The lesson that you taught so well

gives work I love to do

I hope that you find comfort in my memory

The work I do helps someone to live –

My greatest legacy.


Daniel Mark Extrom

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Poem - Donation

Posted by on March 18, 2018, 5:59 a.m.



I gave my eyes so that a small girl could see
the iridescent blue of a damsel fly’s wings.

I gave my heart to a boy too weak to stand,
who now runs and climbs the rocks above the tarn.

I gave my lungs so that another child could breathe
and fill them with the ocean’s salty wind.

I need no marble headstone, but in a sun warmed clearing,
plant curving bluebells and fluted daffodils

scented blues and vibrant singing yellows
to celebrate my short life each spring.

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George Clooney - Organ donation

Posted by on March 17, 2018, 4:26 p.m.

Quote ;“I think you should automatically donate your organs because that would turn the balance of organ donation in a huge way. I would donate whatever anybody would take, and i`d probably do the cremation bit”  George Clooney

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Liam Neeson - Organ donation

Posted by on March 17, 2018, 4:20 p.m.

Quote; “She`s keeping three people alive at the moment; her heart, her kidneys and her liver. It`s terrific. And I think she would be very thrilled and please by that.”      Actor;  Liam Neeson 

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