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Cake | Free End-of-Life Planning Tool

Posted by bleosz on July 23, 2018, 5:47 p.m.

Cake | Free End-of-Life Planning Tool

Cake is a free digital tool that helps you proactively discover, store, and share your end-of-life preferences with loved ones. 

Create or upload important planning documents, including:

  • a health care proxy
  • a living will
  • an advance care plan
  • a will
  • a funeral plan
  • a legacy plan

Your preferences and documents are stored securely in a HIPAA-compliant cloud so they can be accessed whenevver and wherever they may be needed. 

Share your profile with loved ones to make sure they know what is important to you, and to make it easier for them to tie up loose ends after you're gone.

Planning is gift to yourself and your ...

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Have the crucial conversation

Posted by huunuu123 on June 13, 2018, 11:06 a.m.

Have the crucial conversation

Hello there, 

We have a website that allows people to plan for their funeral, to be remembered how they want to be. It's a free service to use. We want people to be able to have the crucial conversations, in a way that makes it easy to share with their loved ones. People can also choose how to plan for their life with lots of bucket list ideas.

We also have lots of blogs around dying which can be found here: and we interview people in the business too.

Hope this is of some interest to you and your followers.

All the ...

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Dying Matters Poem

Posted by RachelMc on May 7, 2018, 8:46 a.m.

National Dying Matters week comes around every May. It is a time for us all to stop and think about our futures. Death will come to us all one day. Talking about it will not make it happen sooner; it will just mean that we and our loved ones are more prepared for it. We can legally appoint people to speak for us and make decisions on our finances and health if at any point we are unable to do this for ourselves. Planning our funerals can give comfort to our families, knowing our favourite readings or music is included. Writing our wills makes life much easier for those left behind. Dying matters. Let's get it right. 
Dying matters…
It’s got to happen one day;
Let’s hope it won’t be soon. 
It’s good to talk about it,
That elephant in the room.
Let’s make the most of living
Enjoy it while we can;
Let’s run and jump, dance around,
But also start to plan. 
Then when our bodies weaken
And can’t run any more,
Slow it to a walk or stroll,
Consider what’s in store. 
Then when time’s getting shorter,
We’re bound to beds or chairs,
Let’s read and write, paint and draw,
And sort out our affairs. 
There’s Powers of Attorney,
For finances or health, 
Funerals and written wills
To say who gets our wealth. 
For once our time is over, 
If we’ve talked it all through,
It’s better for our loved ones;
They’ll know just what to do. 
Rachel McCoubrie 2018
Twitter RachelMcCoubrie@McCoubrieRachel

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Live Life for Today and Plan for Tomorrow

Posted by rickon on April 7, 2018, 6:55 a.m. 1 comment

Live Life for Today and Plan for Tomorrow

Plan for tomorrow - please don't wait - it may be too late! This link will allow you to download a free Advanced Information pack that I designed following the deaths of 4 relatives for which I was executor. Completion of this document will be a gift to your family and will be essential if you have a serious illness, dementia, stroke and when you die. It can be completed on-line and saved on to a USB drive, or printed and then completed by hand. 1000's have been downloaded over last 12 months.

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Mother's Grief orientations booklet

Posted by OngAmadaHelena on April 6, 2018, 11:29 a.m.

The purpose of this booklet is to detail recommendations of good practices in relation to maternal grief and bereavement in search of establishing a dialogue about the loss, breaking the taboo and the silence about grief.The objective is also to help all the mothers that go through this tragedy to have access to information on the course of the grieving process in a practical and easy-to-understand way, which will help them to become more aware of their needs and their feelings, stimulating an improvement in the quality of life after the loss and thus preventing complications associated with mourning. We also intend to emphasize the importance of social and family ties in the process, awakening empathy and helping them to better understand the needs of these mothers so that they can succeed in getting the new reality adapted.

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The Legacy,


My family loved me very much ,

and taught me well to share,

And I am able yet to give,

though I am not there,


Mourn me not my family;

my spirits still in you,

The lesson that you taught so well

gives work I love to do

I hope that you find comfort in my memory

The work I do helps someone to live –

My greatest legacy.


Daniel Mark Extrom

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Poem - Donation

Posted by on March 18, 2018, 5:59 a.m.



I gave my eyes so that a small girl could see
the iridescent blue of a damsel fly’s wings.

I gave my heart to a boy too weak to stand,
who now runs and climbs the rocks above the tarn.

I gave my lungs so that another child could breathe
and fill them with the ocean’s salty wind.

I need no marble headstone, but in a sun warmed clearing,
plant curving bluebells and fluted daffodils

scented blues and vibrant singing yellows
to celebrate my short life each spring.

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George Clooney - Organ donation

Posted by on March 17, 2018, 4:26 p.m.

Quote ;“I think you should automatically donate your organs because that would turn the balance of organ donation in a huge way. I would donate whatever anybody would take, and i`d probably do the cremation bit”  George Clooney

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Liam Neeson - Organ donation

Posted by on March 17, 2018, 4:20 p.m.

Quote; “She`s keeping three people alive at the moment; her heart, her kidneys and her liver. It`s terrific. And I think she would be very thrilled and please by that.”      Actor;  Liam Neeson 

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You can only watch this if you are in the UK, I assume. Skip to 10 minutes into the video to get to the start of this part about Russell Davison talking about keeping the body of his wife home for six days before the funeral (10:00 - 20:23):
I am talking about bringing my husband's body home before the funeral. He died in a car accident and had to have an autopsy. We organised the funeral ourselves and buried him on private land.
Basically this short video is showing people how it is not necessary to hand over to funeral directors unless you want to. It is possible to keep the body at home until the funeral or to bring it home once it is released by the coroner, if the death is due to an accident or other unexpected circumstance.
The video is available on BBC iplayer from today 12 Feb 2018 for 28 days.

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Necessary Losses

Posted by Randy Beggs on Oct. 24, 2017, 4:27 p.m.

Necessary Losses

Judith Voirst provides excellent guidance regarding the view of death as an exception to living and rather offers the view that death is yet another experience which must be sustained by life. Voirst offers the perspective that we suffer losses daily - that loss is not an exception to life but very much part of living.

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On Death and Dying

Posted by Teresa Hudson on Aug. 16, 2017, 8:24 p.m. 2 comments

One of the most important psychological studies of the late twentieth century, On Death and Dying grew out of Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's famous interdisciplinary seminar on death, life, and transition. In this remarkable book, Dr. Kübler-Ross first explored the now-famous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

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The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully.

"It is the impermanence of life that gives us perspective.  As we come in contact with life's precarious nature, we also come to appreciate its preciousness. Then we don't wan to wast a minute... Death is a good companion on the road to living well and dying without regrets."  

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The Five Invitations

Posted by mburnside on March 16, 2017, 2:27 p.m.

The Five Invitations

From the website: 



Discovering What Death
Can Teach Us About Living Fully

Death is not waiting for us at the end of a long road. Death is always with us, in the marrow of every passing moment. She is the secret teacher hiding in plain sight, helping us to discover what matters most.

Life and death are a package deal. They cannot be pulled apart and we cannot truly live unless we are aware of death. The Five Invitations is an exhilarating meditation on the meaning of life and how maintaining an ever-present consciousness of death can bring us closer to our truest selves.

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Easy Death, Spiritual Wisdom on The Ultimate Transcending of Death and Everything Else by The Ruchir

"An exciting, stimulating, and 
thought-provoking book that 
adds immensely to the ever- 
increasing literature on the 
phenomena of life and death. 

" is a confirmation that a life 
filled with love instead of fear 
can lead to ultimately 
meaningful life and death.

"Thank you for this masterpiece."

– Elisabeth Kubler Ross, M.D. 
author, On Death and Dying

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