Death Cafe profile for Mel McClave


Location: United States

http://lastactsoflove.com/

About Mel McClave :

My name is Mel McClave. I'm a Death Doula in private practice since 2018. I've cohosted an Online Death Cafe every month since June 2020 (https://deathcafe.com/deathcafe/17353/) and am excited to host regularly scheduled in-person Death Cafes starting in August 2023. My Death Cafes are free and done as an act of service. 

 

I've learned a lot about living, working with the dying.

 

I'm driven by an insatiable curiosity to understand the source of kindness, humor, art, communication, and love. 

 

 

 


What brings you to Death Cafe?

I love discussing dying and death. The topic is one that is personal and intimate and creates connection with myself and others


What would you like your legacy to be?

I want my legacy to be one of loving connection. I want my life to make the world a better place. 

My wish is that all who knew me remember to live their lives to the fullest and continue to make the world a better place 


Thoughts for sharing:

"We all have to find our own ways to say good-bye" Sherman Alexie

 

"But we only get so many days, now I have one less" The Avett Brothers

 

"You weren't killing time, time was killing you" Ryan Holiday 

 

"Not everything that's faced can be resolved, but nothing can be resolved that is not faced" James Baldwin

 

" Be compassionate with yourself. Be understanding, accepting, forgiving, and perhaps even loving about your foibles as expressions of human nature. Enjoy and smile at yourself" Abe Maslow

 

" Equilibrium is the most boring situation to be in. It's death. It's chemical death" Andrea Sella

 

"We don't fear death; we fear the contemplation of death. Death is always the same distance away" Ryan Holiday 

 

 


Contact Mel McClave



Mel McClave 's posts on the Death Cafe website


Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PDT

Posted by Mel McClave on Sept. 27, 2024, 12:08 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Nov. 27, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: Orange County Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on Sept. 27, 2024, 12:08 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Nov. 5, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

 

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD In-Person Death Cafe Solana Beach

Posted by Mel McClave on Sept. 27, 2024, 12:04 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Oct. 23, 2024, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PDT

Posted by Mel McClave on Sept. 27, 2024, 12:04 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Oct. 23, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: Orange County Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on Sept. 26, 2024, 2:35 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Oct. 1, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

 

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PDT

Posted by Mel McClave on July 23, 2024, 2:41 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Sept. 25, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: Orange County Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on July 23, 2024, 2:41 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Sept. 3, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

 

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD In-Person Death Cafe Solana Beach

Posted by Mel McClave on July 23, 2024, 2:39 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Aug. 28, 2024, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PDT

Posted by Mel McClave on July 23, 2024, 2:38 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Aug. 28, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: Orange County Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on July 23, 2024, 2:37 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Aug. 6, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

 

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: Orange County Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on June 27, 2024, 2:21 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

July 2, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

 

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PDT

Posted by Mel McClave on June 27, 2024, 2:20 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

July 24, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD In-Person Death Cafe Solana Beach

Posted by Mel McClave on June 27, 2024, 2:18 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

July 24, 2024, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD In-Person Death Cafe Solana Beach

Posted by Mel McClave on May 28, 2024, 5:24 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

June 26, 2024, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PDT

Posted by Mel McClave on May 21, 2024, 11:37 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

June 26, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: OC Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on May 21, 2024, 11:35 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

June 4, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PDT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

 

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PDT

Posted by Mel McClave on April 30, 2024, 5:39 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

May 22, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PDT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD In-Person Death Cafe Solana Beach

Posted by Mel McClave on April 30, 2024, 5:35 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

May 22, 2024, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PDT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: OC Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on April 30, 2024, 5:30 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

May 7, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PDT)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death?

 

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD In-Person Death Cafe Encinitas

Posted by Mel McClave on April 5, 2024, 1:11 p.m.



With Melissa McClave

April 24, 2024, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PDT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on March 26, 2024, 2:56 p.m.



With Mel McClave

April 24, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PDT)

Free

This Death Cafe aims to “increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their finite lives.” We use this time to discuss dying and ...



Death Cafe: OC CA Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on March 19, 2024, 1:27 a.m.



With Melissa McClave

April 2, 2024, 4.00 p.m. - 6.30 p.m. (PDT)

Free

 

This Death Cafe aims to “increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their finite lives.” We use this time to discuss dying and ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD In-Person Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on Feb. 28, 2024, 1:26 p.m.



With Mel McClave

March 27, 2024, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PST)

Accepts donations

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others say ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on Feb. 28, 2024, 12:18 p.m.



With Mel McClave PDT

March 27, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PST)

Accepts donations

This Death Cafe aims to “increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their finite lives.” We use this time to discuss dying and ...



Death Cafe: OC Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on Feb. 28, 2024, 12:14 p.m.



With Mel McClave

March 5, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PST)

Free

This Death Cafe aims to “increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their finite lives.” We use this time to discuss dying and ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PST

Posted by Mel McClave on Feb. 1, 2024, 12:58 a.m.



With Melissa McClave and Frank Stefano

Feb. 28, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Do you want a place where you can share your opinions, perspectives, and thoughts with others who want ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD Death Cafe Encinitas, CA

Posted by Mel McClave on Jan. 31, 2024, 3 p.m.



With Melissa McClave

Feb. 28, 2024, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PST)

Free

About  Death Cafe

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear ...



Death Cafe: Orange County CA Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on Jan. 3, 2024, 2:16 p.m.



With Melissa McClave

Feb. 6, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PST)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others offer ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD Death Cafe Solana Beach CA

Posted by Mel McClave on Jan. 3, 2024, 2:07 p.m.



With Melissa McClave

Jan. 24, 2024, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PST)

Free

 

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what others offer ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PST

Posted by Mel McClave on Dec. 20, 2023, 2:31 p.m.



With Melissa McClave and Frank Stefano

Jan. 24, 2024, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Do you want a place where you can share your opinions, perspectives, and thoughts with others who want ...



Death Cafe: OC Online Death Cafe PST

Posted by Mel McClave on Dec. 20, 2023, 2:29 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Jan. 2, 2024, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PST)

Free

About this Death Cafe

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe space to share your thoughts, ask questions, and ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD Solana Beach Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on Nov. 7, 2023, 9:38 p.m.



With Melissa McClave

Dec. 27, 2023, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PT)

Free

This Death Cafe is an opportunity to share opinions, questions, and ideas about dying and death in a safe and respectful atmosphere. 

Please join us as we delve deeper into ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PST

Posted by Mel McClave on Nov. 7, 2023, 9:07 p.m.



With Melissa McClave and Frank Stefano

Dec. 27, 2023, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Do you want a place where you can share your opinions, perspectives, and thoughts with others who want ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Virtual Death Cafe PST

Posted by Mel McClave on Nov. 7, 2023, 8:59 p.m.



With Melissa McClave and Frank Stefano

Nov. 22, 2023, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Do you want a place where you can share your opinions, perspectives, and thoughts with others who want ...



Death Cafe: OC Online Death Cafe PST

Posted by Mel McClave on Nov. 7, 2023, 8:44 p.m.



With Melissa McClave

Dec. 5, 2023, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe space to share your thoughts, ask questions, and listen to the perspective ...



Death Cafe: Orange County Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on Oct. 16, 2023, 4:56 p.m.



With Mel McClave

Nov. 7, 2023, 4.30 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (PDT)

Free

Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and listen to the perspective of others on the physical, emotionaal, and spiritual aspects that surround dying ...



Death Cafe: San Diego Online Death Cafe with Mel and Frank

Posted by Mel McClave on Oct. 10, 2023, 4:33 p.m.



With Mel McClave

Oct. 25, 2023, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (PDT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and listen to the perspective ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on Oct. 2, 2023, 11:51 a.m.



With Melissa McClave

Oct. 25, 2023, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PDT)

Free

This Death Cafe is an opportunity to discuss all aspects of dying and death in a safe and respectful atmosphere. 

Please joins us as we delve deeper into what aspects ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD Death Cafe Solana Beach CA

Posted by Mel McClave on Sept. 1, 2023, 4:54 p.m.



With Melissa (Mel) McClave

Sept. 27, 2023, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PDT)

Free

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and hear what other people ...



Death Cafe: NCCSD Solana Beach Death Cafe

Posted by Mel McClave on July 21, 2023, 6:03 p.m.



With Melissa McClave

Aug. 30, 2023, 1.00 p.m. - 2.30 p.m. (PDT)

Free

About this Death Cafe

Do you have an interest in the subject of dying and death? Are you looking for a safe place to share your thoughts, ask questions, and ...





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