Death Cafe profile for Billy Dean

Location: United States

About Billy Dean:

My life… has been a proactive mix of ordinary and extra-ordinary adventures. I was born in the city but grew up in the country. I ran track and cross country in high school and college. Spent three years in the Army, married two wonderful women, fathered a loving son, ran marathons, raced motorcycles, and forged a successful career in the aerospace industry—first as an electronic technician, then as a technical writer, and finally an instructor teaching Marines how to repair electronic equipment.

What brings you to Death Cafe?

My 80th birthday got me to thinking about how I wanted to feel about my life in those last weeks or days when I am dying. I realized that overall I felt good about my life and myself. Only thing that came up was a few regrets about not keeping touch with people over the years who I liked very much but just got busy with life and let my memory of them slip away. So, now I'm doing my best to connect with those that are still alive. It's been a wonderful experience finding people who remembered me. Participating in a Death Cafe will certainly be a part of that effort and reward. 

What would you like your legacy to be?

That my family and friends remember my passion for running marathons, racing motorcycles, writing prose and poetry, and never cheating on my wife!

Thoughts for sharing:

Well, we're all born with a fatal disease called aging. Or, as I read recently, "Life is a sexually transmitted disease with a 100 percent fatality rate."

I can't do anything about being dead. What I can do is focus on things that matter while I'm alive.

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Billy Dean's posts on the Death Cafe website

New Blog post: Questions I Asked Myself

Posted by Billy Dean on Aug. 4, 2022, 3:34 p.m.

Who gets everything you own when you die? My wife.

How will your wife survive after you’re dead? Her memories, her friends, her investments and her part-time job.

How will you manage your suffering when you are dying? My wife's bedside comfort and perhaps a dose or two of morphine.

What happens to your body when you’re dead? Cremation => Ashes => Fireplace Mantle

What happens to your mind when your brain dies? Into ...

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