Death Cafe North Canterbury: Kaiapoi
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It’s beginning to get a little cooler now and, as often, the Kaiapoi library is such a great venue for Death café along the river. We had a small group today, just four of us, all women – and one returning attendee, which is always lovely.
The vibe was calm and thoughtful and being a small group allowed us to dig deeper into some interesting topics, we talked a lot about “who owns the dying process?” – by which we explored all aspects of being close to someone who is dying – do they know they’re dying; do they have the right to know? do they want to know? What if they don’t want others to know they are dying? Where do carers and loved one fit with this decision? How do we support this, respect privacy and look after our own needs?
It was great kōrero, needless to say we went around the block a few times!
Keep warm, Liz