Death Cafe profile for Beth Almerini


Location: United States

http://www.gentlydying.com/

About Beth Almerini:

I've been a hospice nurse for 30 years and have seen first hand the results of our culture's reluctance to talk about death and dying. It makes a difficult time more stressful then it needs to be, and makes helping families facing the end of life challenging. When people know what to expect and are able to speak openly about death, dying can be a beautiful and positive experience for everyone involved. 


What brings you to Death Cafe?

I think it's important to provide a space for discussion of a normal process we all will experience, and to simply encourage a conversation.


What would you like your legacy to be?

I would like my legacy to be a bit more light in the world when I leave then there was when I arrived.


Thoughts for sharing:

It has been my experience that people do what they do because they think it will keep them safe, especially when death is involved.


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Beth Almerini's posts on the Death Cafe website


Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Nov. 4, 2019, 8:32 a.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, End of Life Doula

Nov. 19, 2019, 7.00 a.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you! Come join a friendly group of people for conversation, comaraderie and cake. We never know where our discussions will go, but they are ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Oct. 9, 2019, 5:24 p.m.


With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, End of Life Doula

Oct. 22, 2019, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Savings)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you! Come join a friendly group of people for conversation, comaraderie and cake. We never know where our discussions will go, but they are ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on July 17, 2019, 9:33 p.m.


With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

Sept. 24, 2019, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Time)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you, but talking about death can help you to appreciate life more and to consider what steps you can take to die with peace ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on July 17, 2019, 9:20 p.m.

It was much too hot to hold our meeting outside, so our meeting was held as usual in the Quaker Meetinghouse. As usual, there was lively and interesting conversation, many opinons and some laughs! 

 



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on June 7, 2019, 2:07 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

June 25, 2019, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Time)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you!! At Death Cafe, we talk and listen, we laugh and cry and learn something new every time. Plus, there's cake!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on May 5, 2019, 10:46 a.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

May 28, 2019, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Time)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you!! At Death Cafe, we talk and listen, we laugh and cry and learn something new every time. Plus, there's cake!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on March 28, 2019, 3:47 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

April 23, 2019, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Time)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you!! At Death Cafe, we talk and listen, we laugh and cry and learn something new every time. Plus, there's cake!



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on March 28, 2019, 3:40 p.m.

Home funerals, green burials, near death experiences,death and dying from different cultural perspectives, experiences with death as a young child, and more were part of the discussion at this week's Death Cafe. And, of course, there was cake! We had a large and convivial group, with many planning to return to continue the conversation next month.



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Feb. 27, 2019, 12:11 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

March 26, 2019, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Time)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you!! At Death Cafe, we talk and listen, we laugh and cry and learn something new every time. Plus, there's cake!



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Feb. 27, 2019, 12:02 p.m.

We had a full house with several new members and truly different topics. We discussed some of the issues around violent and unexpected deaths, such as war; member's experiences with other Death Cafe meetings, the benefits (as always) of having advanced directives, fear of death, and how being aware of the finite nature of life helps improve the lives we are living. This was a much more serious meeting than some of our previous ones, but there were still a lot of laughs and lively differences of opinion. 

Please join us next month.



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Jan. 14, 2019, 10:04 a.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

Feb. 26, 2019, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EST)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you!! At Death Cafe, we talk and listen, we laugh and cry and learn something new every time. Plus, there's cake!

 


Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Jan. 14, 2019, 9:54 a.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

Jan. 29, 2019, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EST)

Accepts donations

Talking about death won't kill you! In fact, talking about it can be fun, informative, fascinating and well worth your time. Plus, there's cake!



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Nov. 29, 2018, 7:25 p.m.

We had some new members this month and our conversation ranged from the poetry of death, to near death experiences, the various forms of green burials and why its important to be careful when spreading ashes! There were personal stories about encounters with dying family members and the experience of caregiving. Of course, there was also laughter and cake! 



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Nov. 29, 2018, 7:20 p.m.

Tonight's Death Cafe was an intimate gathering where we discussed how the holidays impact death, dying and grieving, how to create new holiday traditions when loved ones have died and the description of a sky burial from the book "Hotel at the Top of the World". As always, very interesting conversation.



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Oct. 24, 2018, 7:31 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

Dec. 18, 2018, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (New York)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you!! At Death Cafe, we talk and listen, we laugh and cry and learn something new every time.



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Oct. 24, 2018, 7:29 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

Nov. 27, 2018, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (New York)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you!! At Death Cafe, we talk and listen, we laugh and cry and learn something new every time.



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Aug. 2, 2018, 8:07 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN, CEOLD

Sept. 25, 2018, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (New York)

Accepts donations

Talking about it won't kill you!! At Death Cafe, we talk and listen, we laugh and cry and learn something new every time.



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Aug. 2, 2018, 7:58 p.m.

Death comes to us all, including Death Cafe moderators. The June meeting was cancelled due to a death in my family.



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Feb. 28, 2018, 7:37 p.m.

Bucket lists, 'negative bucket lists', death doulas, bereavement, the challenge of filling out EOL paperwork and why we avoid it, the importance of kindness, and the controversies around aid in dying. So many different topics and such different perspectives! Please join us next month!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Feb. 28, 2018, 7:28 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini

March 20, 2018, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EST)

Donations for venue and food gratefully accepted, but not required.

It won't kill you to talk about it! Talking about death can be interesting, uplifting, helpful, funny, painful, difficult, provocative, informative- anything but boring! We laugh, cry, debate, discuss ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Jan. 29, 2018, 7:28 p.m.

What do Swedish Death Cleaning, pitfalls of prepaid funerals, the movies "Coco" and "Hereafter", Shakespeare, Green Burial, indigent burial on Hart Island in NYC, hoarding, and Julian James have in common? All were topics discussed at our January Death Cafe. We had, as always, an interesting mix of people from all walks of life with every sory of perspective. Join us next time- you never know where we'll end up!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Jan. 29, 2018, 7:20 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Feb. 20, 2018, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EST)

Donations for venue and food gratefully accepted, but not required.

It won't kill you to talk about it! Talking about death can be interesting, uplifting, helpful, funny, painful, difficult, provocative, informative- anything but boring! We laugh, cry, debate, discuss ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Jan. 16, 2018, 8:23 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Jan. 23, 2018, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EST)

Donations for venue and food gratefully accepted, but not required.

It won't kill you to talk about it! Talking about death can be interesting, uplifting, helpful, funny, painful, difficult, provacative, informative- anything but boring! We laugh, cry, debate, discuss ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Dec. 1, 2017, 11:09 a.m.

As usual, we had a wonderful meeting with very interesting conversation. Those attending included a member of clergy, two death doulas, a pet bereavement specialist, a nurse, and others from all walks of life.  Some of the topics were how the lack of community and connections contribute to difficulties around death and dying, the ethical issues around suicide and assistance in dying, and how realizing the inevitability of death can help make life so much more full and meaningful. Looking forward to December's meeting!



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Oct. 26, 2017, 9:07 p.m.

I always want to say this was the best meeting ever, because they are all that good.  We had eleven people, including a reporter (!). We spent time talking about the impact the death of a pet has on us and how, in many ways, it can be more difficult to process. That led to a discussion about disenfranchised grief and we somehow ended up talking about after death "miracles" and how loved ones who have passed still influence us and were fortunate to hear the personal story of a participant's near death experience.  As usual, there were some tears, a lot of laughter and, of course, delicious ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Oct. 7, 2017, 10:22 a.m.

As always, each meeting is different, and this one was very special.  It was a small group of previous attendees and new ones and the conversation ranged from the philosophical to the downright funny. In fact, this gathering disproved the idea that talking about death is somehow morbid and depressing. We're all looking forward to October's session.

 



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 4:15 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Dec. 19, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.

Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 4:14 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Nov. 28, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.

Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 4:14 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Oct. 24, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.

Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 4:12 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Sept. 26, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.

Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 3:12 p.m.

Another interesting and lively event. There was a mix of new people and people who have attended before and discussion ranged from thoughts on assisted suicided to how to comfort the bereaved, to how religion influences our thoughts about death.  Come join us for our next meeting!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on July 25, 2017, 2:39 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Aug. 15, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.

Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on July 19, 2017, 2:47 p.m.

A death doula, a thanantologist, a retired nurse, a few Quakers, a few people who had cared for dying loved ones and some people intrigued by the idea of talking about death walked into a room and were glad they did! We shared personal stories, tried to figure out why the death care system is the way it is, talked about death doulas and how to work with people who are dying. And then we enjoyed cake and kept on talking.  We decided to do it again in August!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on June 9, 2017, 8:49 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

July 11, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Time)

Suggested donation: $10 for space and refreshments. Gratefully accepted, but not required.

Death and dying seem to be the last taboo, so come  break the taboo and join in a lively, interesting conversation about all things related to death and dying.  Bring ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on April 27, 2017, 1:29 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

May 16, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Time)

Donations for cost of refreshments and space gratefully accepted, but not required

Why don't we talk about death? We seem to be able to discuss all sorts of intimate issues in public, but somehow avoid talking about death.  Let's break ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on April 10, 2017, 12:03 p.m.

Nourishing conversations, tasty treats, happy laughter, gentle disagreements, new participants, and many points of view charactericized this meeting. This was a more intimate group than at our last Death Cafe and the conversation was a bit deeper. The newer participants were in their 30s and had a great deal to contribute.  We all enjoyed the conversation so much, we've decided to meet again in May!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on March 5, 2017, 11:36 a.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

March 22, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern)

Donations for cost of refreshments and space gratefully accepted, but not required

Come, join us for a conversation about a subject that is too often avoided.  We will all face death, so why not talk about it before that day arrives?  Bring ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Oct. 25, 2016, 12:45 p.m.

This was my first Death Cafe, and it was so much more than I had expected.  We had 15 attendees and conversation that was interesting, insightful, unexpected, funny and poignant.  People participated enthusiastically, and expressed real gratitude for being able to talk about death without a need either for euphemisms or being careful not to upset someone by being too direct.  There were nurses attending who expressed their frustrations around dealing with death in the medical setting. I also found that, by introducing myself a hospice nurse, people had many, many questions and appreciated the opportunity to have them answered. There was such a large response, that I ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 19, 2016, 4:50 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Oct. 20, 2016, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EST)

Donations for cost of refreshments and space gratefully accepted, but not required

What is the one thing that happens to us all that no one wants to discuss? If you'd like to talk about death, dying and related issues, please join ...





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