Death Cafe

Death Cafe profile for Tracy Seffers

Location: United States

About Tracy Seffers:

Elder Care/End of Life Doula via Doulagivers Int'l. INELDA trained, preparing for Certified Music Practitioner via Music for Healing and Transition Program (MHTP).

Ready to talk about the hard stuff with you.

What brings you to Death Cafe?

I want to be able to provide this conversation in my communities, and this is the premier resource to do so. Thank you!

What would you like your legacy to be?

I created spaces for people to breathe, and be, and create - to live and die in peace, and to know themselves beloved and held in tenderness.

Thoughts for sharing:

When death comes 
like the hungry bear in autumn; 
when death comes and takes all the bright coins from his purse

to buy me, and snaps the purse shut; 
when death comes 
like the measle-pox;

when death comes 
like an iceberg between the shoulder blades,

I want to step through the door full of curiosity, wondering: 
what is it going to be like, that cottage of darkness?

And therefore I look upon everything 
as a brotherhood and a sisterhood, 
and I look upon time as no more than an idea, 
and I consider eternity as another possibility,

and I think of each life as a flower, as common 
as a field daisy, and as singular,

and each name a comfortable music in the mouth, 
tending, as all music does, toward silence,

and each body a lion of courage, and something 
precious to the earth.

When it's over, I want to say: all my life 
I was a bride married to amazement. 
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.

When it's over, I don't want to wonder 
if I have made of my life something particular, and real.
I don't want to find myself sighing and frightened, 
or full of argument.

I don't want to end up simply having visited this world.

—Mary Oliver

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Tracy Seffers's posts on the Death Cafe website

New Blog post: Coming Home

Posted by Tracy Seffers on Nov. 10, 2023, 6:48 a.m.

22 years ago.

It was a beautiful soft Florida morning in November. As was his early morning habit, Dad had walked around the house, inspecting the rose bushes to see if any could be cut and brought inside to brighten the air around you. You loved your roses! But there was only one, still just a tight bud, out of season.

You labored all morning to breathe, each breath coming slower, with more space in ...

Death Cafe: Shepherdstown WV Death Cafe: Tea, Cake and Conversation

Posted by Tracy Seffers on Oct. 25, 2023, 2:15 p.m.

With Tracy Seffers

Dec. 5, 2023, 12.00 p.m. - 1.00 p.m. (Eastern)

Accepts donations

Join us for tea, cake and compassionate conversation about death and dying. Bring your questions, your stories, your worries. Bring your open hearts and minds. Bring your grief and your ...