Death Cafe profile for Adrian Allotey

Location: United States

About Adrian Allotey:

I am currently living my best life by responding to a calling on my life; service to elders and their loved ones.  My life’s calling came as a result of being present in my 106 year old, loving grandmother’s journey until her last breath.  Although I loved her dearly, I often felt troubled that I couldn’t be there for her like I wanted. Life got in the way; being a wife and mother and having a successful career.  She was pretty healthy, but she lacked companionship. I knew there were things that could improve the quality of her life such as long talks, sharing stories, cooked meals, and transportation to the doctors, stores and church. I did my best, but there simply wasn’t enough time in the day to show up like I felt she deserved.   Her passing my life’s purpose clear; service to elders and their loved ones


I made it my life’s mission to promote the final years as a sacred, beautiful, honorable stage of life.  I became a hospice volunteer and a certified end-of-life doula, a person who assists in the dying process, much like a birth doula does with the birthing process.  Working with elderly patients has been life affirming so much so that I left a career of 20+ years.  


Along with my team, we serve as non-medical elderly companions who specialize  in physical, emotional and spiritual care. We meet our clients on their terms, see them as whole, and build relationships with them and their loved ones.   Our self-care regimen, personal growth and intuition allow us to mindfully hold space and provide comfort for elderly people and their family in a non-judgmental, loving manner. Our motto “heart to your heart" is evident in the holistic elder companionship we provide.  


Holding this space decreases the stress and fears family members face when looking for care for their loved ones; whether they are in need of respite relief, work long hours or live long distance.  We can help. Through extensive end-of-life doula training, we are able to provide support, education, and suggestions for comfort. We have a toolkit of available resources to ease the anxious person and their family members including virtual “elder cams,” essential oils, crystals, reiki, mindfulness practices, etc.  We are often referred to as “angels”, “Godsends”, “extraordinary”, “beyond belief” and words of the like. Contact us TODAY to see how we can be of assistance to you TOMORROW and we promise to assist in enhancing the life of your loved elder.

What brings you to Death Cafe?

Each moment from birth to death is equally valuable.

What would you like your legacy to be?

I loved.

Thoughts for sharing:

“Sometimes in life we just need someone who will be there for us.  Someone who will listen. Someone who will understand us.” Unknown

“You matter because you are you, and you matter to the last moment of your life.  We will do all we can, not only to help you die peacefully, but also live until you die.” Dame Cicely Saunders

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Adrian Allotey's posts on the Death Cafe website

New Blog post: Looking At Your Own Mortality

Posted by Adrian Allotey on July 16, 2019, 9:05 p.m.

Dealing with your own mortality can be a challenging prospect, but approaching death doesn’t have to be an unpleasant or deeply distressing experience. With the right support and care, this sacred journey can be calm, peaceful and tranquil.


Although death is the only certainty in life, it can be a subject that people shy away from. Even following a decline in health, you may find that even your closest family and friends find it ...

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