Questions

Recently at our Titirangi Death Café some provocative questions were raised.  I am still reflecting on them and thought I would share the questions for your reflection also.

What is old?  What is too old?  What gifts are there in aging and in dying; for me and for those I am connected to?  Will I know when it is ‘my time’?  How will I know?  What if I want quality of life rather than quantity of life?

In gratitude for the conversation – Kerry-Ann

Comments

Hi, I have been caring for elderly people and also an end of life situation, One of the many positive things that has come from these experiences is that sometimes its hard for the person to realise that in their incapacity or their suffering that they are still giving to others, that to allow someone to be able to care for another is a very rich and rewarding growing experience which, in many cases could not be achieved without the client going through this stage.

Posted by Catherine Jamieson

what lives/what dies

Life is like stepping onto a boat which is about to sail out to sea and sink how we live our lives determines how we will exit this plane----how does this energy of mind/spirit dissolve and where does it go-- I suggest --start meditation practice, no matter about religious preference, bonifide spiritual guide will open ure eye----with a bow taian

Posted by taian

Embracing Suffering

Hi Catherine,
Your comment about a person's suffering being a gift for another might be taken as being selfless or selfish. Self-love attained through loving a person who s dying is gratifying and can easily prolong the process of dying, contributing more to suffering.
My book, WISHES TO DIE FOR, suggests be on guard for others who intend to embrace our suffering.

Posted by Kevin Haselhorst