I read an article in The Times today quoting a study by the organisation Dying Matters which reveals that half of all people in couples have no idea how their partner would like to depart the world.  Four out of five people revealed they do not feel comfortable talking about their own demise.

This rings true in my workshop, where clients come to me to commission a headstone for their loved ones. Occasionally the person who died left clear instructions on their choice of headstone, and this is often a real relief to relatives, and can result in the most decisive and moving inscriptions.

The majority of the time however the clients must decide on the wording and this is often a great source of anxiety and even tension where many relatives are involved in the commissioning. 

So I encourage you to discuss the wording you would like on your headstone with your loved ones. Have a look at the types of stones available, and be aware that there are many skilled letter cutters in the UK who make hand carved headstones; you do not need to stick to the monumental masonry firms recommended by many funeral directors.  There is a great deal of choice out there, and sharing your wishes with your loved ones can make the whole process of commissioning a headstone so much easier.