Death Cafe write-ups

Ann Arbor Death Cafe Write up

Posted by Merilynne Rush on July 17, 2017, 9:14 a.m.

Very moving discussion with so many present who had had a recent, profound loss. We also discussed our gratitude for Jon Underwood and the impact of his work world-wide. Questions and thoughts:

Is there a connection between our own physical symptoms and someone's death? For example, someone having very low blood pressure while, unbeknownst to him, his mother was dying?

How do we connect to those who have passed? Sometimes we get signs from them immediately and sometimes it takes a few months for signs to appear. 

What do we learn from near-death experiences? Many of us have had them, not alwasy in the dramatic form we ...

Death Cafe in Seattle Write up

Posted by Amanda Allen on July 13, 2017, 11:25 p.m.

This Death Cafe was very enlightening about what people percieve as success in life, and how the preceding generation to ours found attachment in things over experience. We discussed how anxiety can prevent people from living, and how our attachment to things can do the same. We talked about the surprise of death, or how people will allow themselves to seem more needy than they might be because they're afraid of being forgotten if they stop needing help.
Our group is beautiful and sweet, and I believe most of us left with thoughts on how we can minimalize our belongings to the imortant things and leave our ...

Hornby Island, BC Death Cafe XI Write up

Posted by Sylvia Sienikehä Elysiana on July 9, 2017, 12:48 a.m.

A truly beautiful gathering. 

Vancouver Death Cafe Write up

Posted by Janet Rivers on July 7, 2017, 7:02 p.m.

This was a smaller group with just 10, but lively conversation. Comments all good and cake delicious. We will take a break over the summer and are planning a fall series.


Death Cafe Duluth / Superior Write up

Posted by Pals on July 6, 2017, 8:48 a.m.

Our gathering last night was held in honor of Jon Underwood.  Great grattitude was expressed for his work and the continuation of Death Cafe. It seems as though people want to talk about death, and are gratefull to have the place to do it.  New comers were present and the conversation was very interesting and flowing.  Topics of fear, connecting with the Ancesters, soul fragmentation, and reincarnation were brought up and discussed.  The idea of having the funeral before death was brought up. Physco Drama was talked about.  All in all, it was another fascinating gathering with very interesting conversation.  And of course, the cake and tea was ...

The Lewisham Death Cafe Write up

Posted by LewishamDeathCafe on July 4, 2017, 12:22 p.m.

We met as usual at Costa Coffee in Rushey Green Catford SE6.

There were only three of us on this occasion but we discussed, needless to say, the terrible Grenfell Tower tragedy and the impact of sudden death upon victims and their relatives and friends.

We had a newcomer, who has attended a number of different DCs around London, and his input, and experiences of the other DCs was much welcomed.

The next day I learnt of the sudden and unexpected death of the founder of the DC movement, Jon Underwood. 

He was only 44 years old and had shown no signs of illness before he died.

there ...

LGBTQ+ Death Cafe Write up

Posted by nickbaggio on July 4, 2017, 10:40 a.m.

Very well attended - many different views and perspectives presented - felt to be really worthwhile and partipants felt it should be repeated.

We hade lots of different cakes made by both the facilitators and some of the participants!

Death Cafe Whitstable Write up

Posted by Julie on June 30, 2017, 6:16 a.m.

Thank you everyone for attending our Death Cafe on Saturday, we had a lovely afternoon, and discussed a wide range of topics. Conversation flowed with everyone contibuting. This turned out to be a well attended session with a diverse mix of beliefs and attitudes. All in all a very interesting afternoon. A big shout out to The Umbrella Centre, for letting us use their colourful room, and The Umbrella Cafe, for their great coffee and cakes. They always make us feel so welcome. Our next Death Cafe will be the 16th September 2017 at the same venue and times.

Many Thanks & see you in september!

Julie & Sue 

Death Cafe Hawkes Bay Write up

Posted by Death Cafe Hawkes Bay on June 28, 2017, 10:08 p.m.

We had an overwhelming response to our first Death Cafe with big numbers of people through the door. It was a fantastic informative evening enjoyed by all.

Death Cafe Austin - North Write up

Posted by Heather Black on June 27, 2017, 3:35 p.m.

In the last meeting we talked more about avoiding death, and why we need to die. We had some healthcare professionals that talked about disease and the tragedy of dying of some that are very avoidable. We meandered over a number of different topics.

Talk & Treats Death Cafe Write up

Posted by FriendsofHospice on June 26, 2017, 1:32 p.m.

The Talk & Treats Death Cafe in Pullman on June 23 was attended by 6 people. A warm summer evening provided a lovely setting for discussion. It is always a bit magical for people from different backgrounds to bring their thoughts of death to a table so willingly. Some of the comments after the evening expressed a desire to return the next time an event is held, and encouragement for anyone considering attending a death cafe.

Death Cafe Guernsey Write up

Posted by Karen Leach on June 22, 2017, 5:03 a.m.


Our first Death Cafe was organised in the Concourse at Beau Sejour Leisure Centre, Guernsey.  The café took place during Dying Matters week and ran from 3pm - 6pm. 


Throughout the afternoon about 15 people came in and many of them stayed quite a while to chat.  Most of them were from the older age group and had suffered the loss of a partner, but there were a few younger people who were wanting to find out how they could best support bereaved people in their friendship group. We had a number of leaflets, from CAB, local undertakers and Dying Matters week and people seemed quite interested in taking ...

Death Cafe Zarautz Write up

Posted by Iñaki Peña Bandrés on June 15, 2017, 2:55 p.m.

Date: June 7th, 2017.

Place: Hotel Alameda. Zarautz (Basque Coutry).

Hosts: Amaia Artze and Iñaki Peña.


In this second edition at our town, 18 people attended the event. Most of them were women (14:4).

Almost half of the attendants were over 65 years-old. But there was a couple from Zumaia, a mother with her son, 20 years-old. It was really interesting listening to him, his thoughts, his experience.

Most of the people who came over would like to repeat some time. Next one, probably in september.

Death Cafe Whangarei Write up

Posted by Jo Moselen on June 13, 2017, 4:39 a.m.

This death cafe was facilited and hosted by Jo Samuel and Jo Moselen. 

There were 8 participants including Jo and Jo. 

Everyone enjoyed a well facilited discussion which included personal experience with death and the common desire to reclaim this end of life transition. There was some good information sharing and everyone would strongly encourage others to attend a death cafe.

Some of the participants words - caring, sharing freely, warmth, enlightening, gentle, informative, affirming, connecting, inspiring.

A very successful first death cafe.

Whangarei's 2nd Death Cafe Write up

Posted by Jo Moselen on June 13, 2017, 4:15 a.m.

The death cafe was facilitated by Jane Cunningham. (Jo Samuel and Jo Moselen an unexpected conflicting event) We enlisted the help of Jane Cunningham who graciuosly embraced the task. There were 4 participants. 

All the participants rated the event highly and enjoyed a lively friendly discussion with like minded people with  one person commenting on being inspired to forge ahead with ideas around being a doula.

All participants would encourage others to attend a death cafe.

Some suggestions for improvement around refreshments which are limited by the cafe in the venue.

Some words from the participants - Nurturing, Gentle, very friendly, community, helpful, want more, kind, inspiring, relaxed.

Another ...

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