Welcome to Death Cafe

At Death Cafes people drink tea, eat cake and discuss death. Our aim is to increase awareness of death to help people make the most of their (finite) lives.

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A Death Cafe is a special occasion - a discussion group where the only topic is death. And it makes for a fantastic conversation! To date we've held 1047 Death Cafes.

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We offer support to set up your own Death Cafe. Organising a Death Cafe is enjoyable, easy and life-enhancing.

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Lets talk about death!

This website is an online space to talk about death. Please share your thoughts, links and art about death and post your Death Cafes.


Recently in Hong Kong people have been talking about death. Read more >>

Recent posts

Death Cafe: Death Cafe in Belfast, Maine

Posted by nancy on Aug. 20, 2014, 6:02 a.m.

With Nancy McAlley

Sept. 15, 2014, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (eastern)

no cost

I want to help increase death awareness and lessen the fear that is associated with the topic.

Death Cafe: Death Cafe Des Moines

Posted by Carriekay on Aug. 19, 2014, 12:42 p.m.

With Carrie England & Mia Countryman

Sept. 20, 2014, 4.00 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (central)

Donations to cover cost of dessert appreciated, but never required!

Death cafes are part of a global movement “To increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives.”  We gather in a ...

Death Cafe write up: Death Cafe of Metro Denver

Posted by Death Cafe Metro Denver on Aug. 19, 2014, 9:12 a.m.

At our terrific discussion on Sunday,  Jackie mentioned how helpful the MOST,  Colorado Advance Directive would be to reflect our wishes for end of life care.  The following is the email I sent to Sunday participants!
Hello all,   Thanks for coming Sunday!   Such great discussions!  To be continued at the next Death Cafe if you choose to come!   Sunday, September 21 ... same time, place!
We will miss Josie and Bill!
 I have attached two links based on your requests yesterday:
First link is the Colorado Directive referred to as the MOST  Medical Orders for Scope of Treatment.    It is a good idea to discuss the questions with your ...

Death Cafe write up: Death Cafe - Sydney

Posted by April Lewis on Aug. 19, 2014, 1:25 a.m.

This was my first visit to a Death Café meeting and,having been recommended by a friend, I had a vague sense of what it would be likea small social group of people, drinking coffee and talking about death.


Death is a big subject, possibly the BIG subject, and with so many aspects to itdying, spirituality, home deaths, loss of loved ones and pets, recent celebrity deaths and funerals being just the tip of the iceberg (maybe the sinking of the Titanic would come up)it seemed we would have no trouble finding something to talk about.


Among the 10 or so people of varying ages ...

Death Cafe: Death Cafe Seattle

Posted by cleeengel on Aug. 18, 2014, 7:24 p.m.

With Brad Lichtenstein, ND

Sept. 17, 2014, 6.30 p.m. - 8.30 p.m. (Pacific Time Zone)


“Usually it takes a heart attack or some other dramatic event to get people to change their lives,” Dr. Brad says. “My argument is, why wait?” With more than 500 ...

Death Cafe: Death Cafe - family & friends event

Posted by avareyerson on Aug. 18, 2014, 7:05 p.m.

With Ava Reyerson

Aug. 23, 2014, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (PST -8:00)

Free - bring a small plate to share if you'd like!

While visiting friends and family I had hoped to run a Death Cafe but it looked like it was too big a job to do when I first arrived. I ...

Death Cafe: Death Cafe Oakland

Posted by jotartare on Aug. 18, 2014, 6:20 p.m.

With Jo Townson and Amani Loutfly

Oct. 1, 2014, 6.00 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (Pacific )


Death Cafe: Mississauga Death Cafe

Posted by Collingwood Death Cafe on Aug. 18, 2014, 4:30 p.m.

With jake McArthur + Rami Shami

Sept. 16, 2014, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EST)

There is no cost to participants. Coffee and tea and cookies will be available at no cost.

i've been pleasantly surprised at the strong interest in Death Cafes. To my mind it speaks to the passionate need, residing in so many, to have an opportunity to ...

Death Cafe: Death Cafe Whitefish Montana

Posted by nancyreecejones on Aug. 18, 2014, 3:08 p.m.

With Nancy Reece Jones

Aug. 25, 2014, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Rocky Mountain )

minimal suggested donation ($3 to $5) to cover facility fees

Death Cafe Whitefish has evolved in a wonderful way since Dec 2013. Every month we have 10-16 people, a mixture of loyal Death Cafers and newbies. It's always an ...

Death Cafe write up: Death Cafe Des Moines, IA

Posted by Amanda the Panda Family Grief Center on Aug. 18, 2014, 10:51 a.m.

Amanda the Panda Family Grief Center hosted Des Moines' first Death Cafe this past Saturday!  It had a lot of challenges, but also a lot of rewards.


We sent out the message via Facebook (our page & an event page), Twitter, Pinterest, & Instagram, as well as emails to grief services state-wide, our program committee, word-of-mouth, and using the event button on the Death Cafe Website.  We had LOTS of interest, and by Saturday night, we had about 30 RSVPs!


Our challenges were all venue-related.  We had reserved the rooftop, but when we arrived, we were locked out, and all of the chairs we stacked & padlocked together.  We couldn't ...

Death Cafe: Death Cafe Hitchin

Posted by salli on Aug. 18, 2014, 10:28 a.m.

With Salli, Carol & Jude

Sept. 30, 2014, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (GMT)

All contributions gratefully received!

Join us for thought-provoking conversation.  Discuss issues that you perhaps would prefer to avoid!  Sort out your priorities, don’t be an ostrich!

Meet interesting, like-minded people.  Their support is ...

Death Cafe: Death Cafe Hitchin

Posted by salli on Aug. 18, 2014, 10:24 a.m.

With Salli & Jude

Aug. 26, 2014, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (GMT)

All contributions gratefully received!

Join us for thought-provoking conversation.  Discuss issues that you perhaps would prefer to avoid!  Sort out your priorities, don’t be an ostrich!

Meet interesting, like-minded people.  Their support is ...

Death Cafe write up: Death Cafe Seattle - Greenwood

Posted by Seattle Death Guyz on Aug. 17, 2014, 5:59 p.m.

The recent Death Café, facilitated by Seattle Death Guyz Kateyanne Unullisi and Francis Lee, created a great environment for a generative conversation. The age range of folks present went from 30’s to 60’s, each sharing their current thoughts/experiences on Death.
Culled from our conversation is the following list of media titles - some movies, some books - that are apropos and sure-fire conversation makers about Death, Loss, and Dying:

-The Denial of Death. A 1973 work of psychology and philosophy by Ernest Becker. It was awarded the Pulitzer Prize for General Non-Fiction in 1974.

-I Thought My Father Was God: And Other True Tales from NPR ...

Death Cafe write up: Montpelier Death Cafe

Posted by MontpelierDeathCafe on Aug. 17, 2014, 5:56 p.m.

We often open our meetings by asking the attendees what brings them to our Death Café. Hearing the broad range of answers is inspiring; some people admit they just don’t know, others share personal stories. But the common thread in all answers is the desire to not hide from death. As a group we feel safe bringing our thoughts about death “into the light”.




As this month’s meeting turned towards a desire not to be afraid of death and how to prepare to die well, we actually talked about how death isn’t the only thing we need to bring into the light. Most of us ...