Welcome to Death Cafe

A Death Cafe is an event where people drink tea, eat cake and discuss death.

At a Death Cafe people drink tea, eat cake and discuss death. Our aim is to increase awareness of death to help people make the most of their (finite) lives.

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Talking about death

A Death Cafe is an agenda free discussion about death. So far we've held 4897 Death Cafes.


To date we've held 4897 Death Cafes. These never involve agendas, advertising or set conclusions. Interesting conversations are guaranteed!

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Host a Death Cafe

People who adopt the model set out in our guide are welcome to set up their own Death Cafes. So far we've held Death Cafes in 51 countries.

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Support Death Cafe

Running Death Cafe is great fun but does take a lot of time. If you value this work please support us on Patreon.

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Recent posts

New Blog post: Message from Jon's friend Mark and how to help

Posted by MarkMorris on June 29, 2017, 4:35 p.m. 9 comments

As an old friend of both Jon and Donna, and Jon's best man at their wedding, I also wanted to share my feelings with this wonderful community, after his tragic death at the age of 44.

In 2011, Jon came to ask for the help of his family and friends with an idea he had had. That idea was Death Cafe, with its mission to increase awareness of death to help people make the ...

Death Cafe: Canberra Death Cafe

Posted by Actdeathdoulas on July 17, 2017, 10:14 p.m.

With Judith, Chrissie

Aug. 8, 2017, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (AEST )


Fellow Canberrans, we are hosting a Death Cafe at my home on Dying to Know Day - Tuesday 8th August from 2pm - 4pm. A Death Cafe creates an opportunity to meet ...

Death Cafe: Hood River Death Cafe

Posted by Pcorn35 on July 17, 2017, 7:45 p.m.

With Hood River Library

July 26, 2017, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (Pacific)

No cost

Death Cafe: Death Cafe Croydon

Posted by Serenity on July 17, 2017, 7:18 p.m.

With Serenity Gardens

July 29, 2017, 10.00 a.m. - 12.00 p.m. (Greenwich Mean Time)

This event is free but please support the venue by buying some refreshments.

This Death Café will take place on the last Saturday of each month.  It will provide an opportunity for individuals of any background, religion, culture or belief to meet together ...

Death Cafe: Death Cafe Curitiba

Posted by Death Cafe Curitiba on July 17, 2017, 5:32 p.m.

With Ursula Guirro e Gisele dos Santos

July 27, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (GMT -3:00)


O que é a morte? 

Vamos descobrir juntos no Death Cafe Curitiba. 

Uma conversa sobre o que é morrer do ponto de vista biológico, filosófico, psicológico, espiritual e hist ...

Death Cafe write up: Ann Arbor Death Cafe

Posted by Merilynne Rush on July 17, 2017, 9:14 a.m.

Very moving discussion with so many present who had had a recent, profound loss. We also discussed our gratitude for Jon Underwood and the impact of his work world-wide. Questions and thoughts:

Is there a connection between our own physical symptoms and someone's death? For example, someone having very low blood pressure while, unbeknownst to him, his mother was dying?

How do we connect to those who have passed? Sometimes we get signs from them immediately and sometimes it takes a few months for signs to appear. 

What do we learn from near-death experiences? Many of us have had them, not alwasy in the dramatic form we ...

Death Cafe: Death Cafe of Tallahassee

Posted by laurad1256 on July 16, 2017, 6:43 p.m.

With Big Bend Hospice

July 27, 2017, 6.00 p.m. - 7.30 p.m. (Eastern)

The only cost is your drink and food selection. (Preview the menu at theeastwoodcafe.com.)

Join us for casual, constructive, life-affirming conversations about death in a relaxed environment.

To claim your seat at the table or for more information, call Big Bend Hospice at 850-878-5310 ...

Death Cafe: Sydney Death Cafe in Japanese

Posted by Shiori on July 16, 2017, 8:31 a.m.

With Shiori Yano

July 24, 2017, 3.30 p.m. - 4.45 p.m. (EST)


We use Japanese language. 

Sharing our natural feelings about death and grief in the context of Japanese and Australian culture. 

Death Cafe: Craftsbury Death Cafe

Posted by Anne-Marie Keppel on July 15, 2017, 3:10 p.m.

With Anne-Marie Keppel

Aug. 31, 2017, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (east coast)

Free! Donations for costs accepted


Following the model developed by Jon Underwood (based on the ideas of Bernard Crettaz), a Death Café is an opportunity for people to eat cake, drink tea and discuss death ...

Death Cafe: Newport (IoW) Death Cafe

Posted by nickwilde@ntlworld.com on July 15, 2017, 7:07 a.m.

With Margaret

Aug. 9, 2017, 2.30 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (UK)

Just pay for your tea and cake.

Margaret is standing in for Nick who is on holiday. Retired people have to have holidays otherwise they don't rest even though both the weeks we are away we ...

Death Cafe: Providence Area Death Cafe

Posted by Ainsley on July 14, 2017, 12:11 p.m.

With Ainsley

Aug. 8, 2017, 6.30 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (EDT)

free/only what you buy

Death Cafe write up: Death Cafe in Seattle

Posted by Amanda Allen on July 13, 2017, 11:25 p.m.

This Death Cafe was very enlightening about what people percieve as success in life, and how the preceding generation to ours found attachment in things over experience. We discussed how anxiety can prevent people from living, and how our attachment to things can do the same. We talked about the surprise of death, or how people will allow themselves to seem more needy than they might be because they're afraid of being forgotten if they stop needing help.
Our group is beautiful and sweet, and I believe most of us left with thoughts on how we can minimalize our belongings to the imortant things and leave our ...

Death Cafe: July 2017 Death Cafe South Seattle

Posted by Amanda Allen on July 13, 2017, 11:20 p.m.

With Antares Wellness, Lashanna Williams and Amanda Allen

July 28, 2017, 6.30 p.m. - 8.30 p.m. (pacific)

5-10 optional donation, just to help with costs but definitely not necessary

Come prior to the Death Cafe for a discussion focused more on home wakes, funerals and vigils.

At 7:30 we will start the Death Cafe as it's intended ...

Death Cafe: Death Cafe Menands, New York

Posted by Kelly Grimaldi on July 13, 2017, 8:16 a.m.

With Kelly Grimaldi & Jane Reel

Sept. 9, 2017, 11.00 a.m. - 12.30 p.m. (eastern standard)

Suggested donation $3 to cover cost of refreshments

Join us for an open and honest discussion about death as it is perceived by the living.  We can't avoid it so let's talk about it!  Our objective ...

Death Cafe: Inverness Death Cafe

Posted by Growersark on July 13, 2017, 6:27 a.m.

With Andrew Cox

Aug. 19, 2017, 6.00 p.m. - 8.00 p.m. (gmt)

Donations accepted for Cafe overheads and publicity materials

Please do come and enjoy a supportive, caring space to share our often unexpressed thoughts/feelings/emotions on this amazing but rather taboo subject.  Avail yourself of delicious home made ...