Death Cafe write-ups
Another Sunday afternoon in Calgary spent at another Death Cafe!
Twenty people came to Rosso Coffee Roasters (which was a feat since we were competing with Comic Con right across the street)!
What a wonderful community, sharing ideas and stories.
Thanks to the terrific staff for all their help. Everyone very much enjoyed the delicious tea, coffee, and treats!
We would like to say a great big thank you to the wonderful folk who came to our recent Death Café at Griffin's Yard, South Molton! There were 15 people who joined us, mostly new to our Pop Up Death Cafés...the ages ranging from 28 to 80...the conversations full and frank....moments of great poignancy, illumination, deep sharing and much laughter! All alongside excellent drinks and cake from Griffin's Yard - so a big thanks to them too! Just starting to share information about our Dying Matters Awareness Week events in May - we hope that many of you will be able to join us ...
Belleville Death Café Summary 4222017
The summary for this meeting contains a lot of information (either by attachment or websites listed). Our discussions were varied and all pertained to internment or inurnment as well as ways to memorialize our dead loved ones. The information is by no means, legal advice and should only be used for educational purposes. That is fitting considering the purpose behind the Death Café is to educate individuals about death to dispel avoiding or fearing aspects of death. When that happens, one can then proceed with living. Death is as natural and inevitable as birth.
Here are the educational materials promised. I am working ...
A well attended meeting which discussed what if you had an envelope with the date and time of your death inside, would you open it? I think the balnce was just about in the favour of no but it was agreed that we should make the most of our present lives anyway.
We also had a question asked about inheritnce tax and after life planning especially as new laws were coming in regarding inheritance tax.
Next meeting Tuesday 9th May in Dying Matters Awareness week.
The death cafe was attended by 15 people. It was the first event of this kind in the region and people were not sure what to expect. Conversation flowed and in the evaluation at the end in general people felt that it was a good idea and people felt that they had had a safe space to be able to discuss how they felt, their ideas and beliefs. We discussed books and movies. People talked about personal experiences and how that has changed how they see death. We talked about death as taboo and how death is dealt with in schools. One person asked the group to share ...
I realized this was scheduled for Easter Sunday, so we are meeting the following weekend.
This is a great group- we have regulars and new people. lively and fun.
The April meeting we will be joined by a group og interested dartmouth Students!!
Nourishing conversations, tasty treats, happy laughter, gentle disagreements, new participants, and many points of view charactericized this meeting. This was a more intimate group than at our last Death Cafe and the conversation was a bit deeper. The newer participants were in their 30s and had a great deal to contribute. We all enjoyed the conversation so much, we've decided to meet again in May!
April 7th turned out to be a pretty major windstorm but that didn't keep the 2 guests from traveling 45+ minutes to attend.
The conversation flowed really well after the introduction.
We talked about protecting each other from sadness around dying.
We talked about how to offer the opportunity to talk about a loss with a friend.
We talked about how to be okay with not being everything to everyone and how to prioritize our needs without feeling selfish.
We shared our stories of loved ones who died, shed a few tears and left feeling like kindred spirits who just spent an hour and a half together ...
3252017 Belleville Death Café Summary
We had another great discussion. One thing that came up with one of the participants was the idea of saying, “He’s dead” did not feel quite natural (and maybe in my opinion uncomfortable anxiety on both ends of that conversation) and the preferred reference was “passed away” or “passed on”. Where did these euphemisms originate and why? The rational attitude is not fear of death or a desire to put it off for as long as possible, but perhaps to make it more comfortable to talk about it. What happens when a loved one has died and someone calls or asks about ...
Nice change of scene for today's gathering - we had a picnic at Allambie Park Natural Burial Area. Around eighteen of us got together, complete with chairs, tables (even a lace tablecloth) and of course, our Thermoses and cake.
Given the location, it's not surprising that the discussion today largely centred on funeral options, including relative costs, the range of caskets available and build-your-own coffin projects.
We talked at length about Natural Earth Burial - what it is (interment in a fully biodegradable coffin, with no synthetic materials, in a relatively shallow, minimally marked grave), how it came about in our region (extensive lobbying around 6-7 years ago ...
This was a lively, interesting Death Cafe. Full of laughter. Good cake. Interesting subjects. 21 attendees, split into three groups. With hindsight we would have moved around halfway, but it was a learning curve. Hope to have another one in the not too distant future. Conversation flowed easily and we had lots of literature for people to pick up... like, Is Your Green Burial Really Green, etc. Useful tool is the Good Funeral Guide. Topics covered a large range from euthanasia, roadside shrines, who do you want present at your death, end of life care, end of life care plans, DNR and many more. We used this website ...
It took place on March 23, 2017. In the coastal town of Zarautz (Basque Country), at Hotel Alameda.
Hosted by nurse Amaia Artze and doctor Iñaki Peña, and attended by a total of 14 people:
- 7 women and 7 men.
- Below 50 year old 7 people and >50 another 7.
- 6 health proffesionals, 8 people holding another employment status.
People came from different backgrounds:
- One man came from a Christian parish an one couple from a Buddhist community.
- One 60 year-old woman was going through the anticipatory grief for her husband, ill with cancer.
- One 40 year-old woman told us about having esoteric experiences.
Short video ...
There was a small number of particapants at this meeting..which allowed all present more time to speak There was a palitable sence of intamacy as stories around loss were shared.. The particapants are aware it is not a bereavement support group. But the safety in the group is such that the emotion of saddness showed its face. One particapant suggested the language to desribe Death Cafe as " Refreshing-Delicious".. and I dont think she was refering to the beverage and cake, although that was good too. Other coments were "Great to share thoughts-hope open speech (about death) spreads to more people in the community...and " Wonderful- THank-you."
Great group and conversation... Alternative options for burial and cremation. Creative ideas and solutions.
The venue was welcoming and comfortable with lots of yummy cakes to choose from. The Death Cafe meeting took place in the private dining room which was a lovely space for a couple of hours of interesting and thought provoking discussion. Everyone comes to a Death Cafe for a different reason and everyone has a different perspective to offer or a different question to ask.