Death Cafe profile for Gail Rubin, CT


Location: United States

http://agoodgoodbye.com/

About Gail Rubin, CT:

Gail Rubin, Certified Thanatologist and The Doyenne of Death®, is author of the award-winning book, A Good Goodbye: Funeral Planning for Those Who Don’t Plan to Die, and KICKING THE BUCKET LIST: 100 Downsizing and Organizing Things to Do Before You Die. Host of A Good Goodbye television series and Internet radio show, she is also a Certified Celebrant and funeral planning consultant. She is a popular speaker who uses humor and films to get the funeral planning conversation started, and a speaker at TEDxABQ 2015. Rubin is a member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling and the International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association.


What brings you to Death Cafe?

I'm all about getting the funeral planning conversation started.


What would you like your legacy to be?

Families with reduced stress at a time of grief, who minimize conflict, save money and create a meaningful, memorable "good goodbye."


Thoughts for sharing:

Talking about sex won't make you pregnant, talking about funerals and end-of-life issues won't make you dead! Start a conversation today.


Contact Gail Rubin, CT



Gail Rubin, CT's posts on the Death Cafe website


Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on March 1, 2017, 4:35 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

March 25, 2017, 3.00 p.m. - 5.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free, donations gratefully accepted for refreshments


The Albuquerque Death Cafe is an interesting, unstructured conversation – open and free-flowing with no specific agenda and respectful of all points of view.

It’s an opportunity to discuss what ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Jan. 30, 2017, 4:04 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Feb. 19, 2017, 3.00 p.m. - 5.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free, donations gratefully accepted for refreshments


A film maker will be recording parts of this Death Cafe for a documentary. A release form will need to be signed if you are okay with being in the ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Dec. 20, 2016, 4:19 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Jan. 21, 2017, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free, donations gratefully accepted for refreshments




Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Nov. 14, 2016, 2:13 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Dec. 17, 2016, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free, donations gratefully accepted for refreshments


Time for more mortality minded conversations at the Albuquerque Death Cafe! If you'd like to talk about what's on your heart or mind about issues regarding death and ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Oct. 18, 2016, 4:17 p.m.



With Gail Rubin

Nov. 5, 2016, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free, donations gratefully accepted


This Death Cafe will take place in Gail Rubin's home. RSVP to get the address and directions. Lola, the Albuquerque Death Cafe mascot will be in residence!



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on May 6, 2016, 5:38 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

June 4, 2016, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


The Albuquerque Death Cafe is a surprisingly lively event! Come join the conversation with fellow Buquenos and our silent Death Cafe mascot, Lola.



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on March 2, 2016, 6:29 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

April 2, 2016, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


Lola, the Albuquerque Death Cafe mascot, will join the conversation circle as a silent reminder of our mortality. She's a life sized plastic skeleton, dressed in a Grateful Dead ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Jan. 24, 2016, 5:18 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Feb. 19, 2016, 4.00 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


This Death Cafe will take place in a funeral home, one of the French Funerals & Cremations locations in Albuquerque. Funeral director and location manager Buck Dyck will take participants on ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Dec. 18, 2015, 2:32 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Jan. 16, 2016, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


Come join in the conversation with Gail Rubin and the ever-silent Lola, the ABQ Death Cafe mascot. RSVP to get the address for Gail Rubin's home, where this event ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Oct. 15, 2015, 10:57 a.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Nov. 14, 2015, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


Did you know Albuquerque was the first U.S. city west of the Mississippi to hold a Death Cafe? Each event includes Lola, the ABQ Death Cafe mascot - a life ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on July 16, 2015, 3:37 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Aug. 22, 2015, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


Lola, the Albuquerque Death Cafe mascot (a plastic skeleton in a Grateful Dead t-shirt) presides over the conversation. This Death Cafe will take place at Gail Rubin’s home – RSVP ...



Death Cafe write up: Las Cruces Symposium Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on May 6, 2015, 7:03 p.m.


On Friday, May 1, 436 people registered to attend “A Beautiful Death… What Will You Choose?” The Dean’s Health Symposium was held by New Mexico State University’s College of Health and Social Services.

At lunch, Gail Rubin, CT, facilitated the largest Death Cafe held in the world to date. At least 400 people participated.

Dr. Donna Wagner, the interim Dean of NMSU’s College of Health and Social Services, was very pleased with the turn-out and responses to the speakers and the topic of the day – directly confronting the fear and stigma surrounding end-of-life discussions for young and old.

Some of the comments from the evaluation ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on April 26, 2015, 4:37 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

May 16, 2015, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


There's a whole lot of talking going on at the Albuquerque Death Cafe! Join like minded people to discuss what's on your heart/mind about mortality issues. Albuquerque ...



Death Cafe: Las Cruces Symposium Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on April 2, 2015, 5:47 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

May 1, 2015, 12.00 p.m. - 1.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - registration required


This Death Cafe will have a record-breaking number of participants - 350 people are expected to talk about mortality issues over lunch during a daylong symposium titled “A Beautiful Death: What ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on March 24, 2015, 5:48 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

April 25, 2015, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


Gail's motto is, “Talking about sex won’t make you pregnant, talking about funerals won’t make you dead. Start a conversation today!”

Come and join the lively conversation ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Jan. 22, 2015, 7:47 a.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Feb. 21, 2015, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


Join in the conversation over tea and cake with Lola, the plastic skeleton mascot of the Albuquerque Death Cafe. She doesn't say much, but she reminds us why we ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Dec. 15, 2014, 2:55 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Jan. 3, 2015, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - donations accepted


Lola, the Death Cafe mascot, will be in attendance (she's a plastic life-sized skeleton). RSVP to Gail [at] AGoodGoodbye.com for address and directions.



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Oct. 8, 2014, 6:47 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Oct. 25, 2014, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


Look for Lola the Death Cafe mascot (she's a life-sized plastic skeleton) sitting with Death Cafe participants.



Death Cafe: ABQ Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Sept. 1, 2014, 4:11 p.m.



With Gail Rubin, CT

Sept. 27, 2014, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


As usual, our Death Cafe mascot Lola (a life sized plastic skeleton) will be present in a new outfit to remind us of our mortality.



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on July 21, 2014, 9 p.m.



With Gail Rubin

Aug. 9, 2014, 2.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


Lola, the Death Cafe mascot, will be in residence for this event. This is a new location, different from past ABQ Death Cafe events.



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on June 26, 2014, 2:25 p.m.



With Gail Rubin

June 28, 2014, 2.30 p.m. - 4.30 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


Sheila's Sweets specializes in caramel goodies - try the caramel bacon!



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe: March Meeting

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Feb. 11, 2014, 5:47 p.m.



With Gail Rubin

March 15, 2014, 2.30 p.m. - 4.30 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


The Albuquerque Death Cafe mascot Lola, a plastic skeleton, presides at the table. She's called Lola because as the song goes, "Whatever Lola wants, Lola gets." Death is a ...



Death Cafe write up: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Feb. 11, 2014, 5:40 p.m.


On Saturday, February 2, 18 people came to share their thoughts on mortality to get the most out of this [finite] lifetime at the latest Albuquerque Death Cafe. The eight men and ten women all had their individual reasons for attending the free event at Sheila’s Sweets, and the conversation was fascinating, as always.

Lola the plastic skeleton presided at the head of the table, wearing a cowboy outfit. Remember, “whatever Lola wants, Lola gets.” Death is a lot like that.

The conversation started with the topic of New Mexico’s new status as a state that allows physician aid-in-dying, joining Oregon, Washington, Vermont and Montana. Talk ...



Press: New Mexicans advocate for more end-of-life choices

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Jan. 8, 2014, 1:13 p.m. 2 comments


This article quotes Death Cafe host Gail Rubin and uses a photo from a Death Cafe event to illustrate a story about New Mexico possibly becoming the fifth U.S. state to allow physician aid-in-dying.

Albuquerque Journal: http://www.abqjournal.com/331259/news/new-mexicans-advocate-for-more-endoflife-choices.html

Press: The New Way of Talking About Death and Dying

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Jan. 8, 2014, 1:10 p.m.


Ronni Bennett, popular blogger on TimeGoesBy.net, attended a Death Cafe and reports her reactions.

Time Goes By: http://www.timegoesby.net/weblog/2014/01/the-new-way-of-talking-about-death-and-dying.html#comments

Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Jan. 8, 2014, 1:04 p.m.



With Gail Rubin

Feb. 1, 2014, 2.30 p.m. - 4.30 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


At this Death Cafe event, our mascot Lola, a life-sized plastic skeleton, sits in on the discussion. She's a reminder of our mortality. Why the name Lola? From the ...



Death Cafe write up: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Dec. 16, 2013, 3:45 p.m.


At yesterday’s Albuquerque Death Cafe, held at Sheila’s Sweets, seven people joined host Gail Rubin for a wide-ranging conversation. Mascot Lola (pictured), presided at the end of the table.

Topics discussed included this past week’s courtroom consideration of New Mexico’s laws regarding physician aid-in-dying. The judge in the case heard arguments whether it will hold doctors liable under the state’s current rules on physician-assisted suicide. Is providing medication to a patient with a terminal illness relieving suffering or helping someone commit suicide?

As with all discussion of Death Cafe topics, it’s up to the individual to decide.

We talked about green burial ...



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Nov. 18, 2013, 11:58 a.m.



With Gail Rubin

Dec. 14, 2013, 2.30 p.m. - 4.30 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


Lola the skeleton will be there! Whatever Lola wants, Lola gets (as the song goes).



Death Cafe write up: Truth or Consequences Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Oct. 14, 2013, 6:07 p.m.


October 13 at Black Cat Books and Coffee in Truth or Consequences, we had 13 people participate in a back room at the shop.

The conversation focused more on serious healthcare issues, suicide, the nature of life in nursing homes, and options for people with difficult physical conditions, as well as dementia and Alzheimers disease, to seek a painless, peaceful death.

We talked about the importance of having an advocate for a patient, available all the time. That attitude is everything, especially when you get old. How being at one's own home can provide more healing than being in a nursing home. How hospice support and pain ...



Death Cafe write up: Silver City Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Oct. 14, 2013, 6:04 p.m.


The Silver City Death Cafe was held at Javalina Coffee House with four participants in addition to facilitator Gail Rubin with A Good Goodbye. We all fit around one big round table, with plenty of elbow room.

The conversation was generally upbeat. We marveled at the sacred space that surrounds both birth and death, entering and exiting this world. We shared stories of messages of comfort and visions of loved ones who left this physical world old and worn out appearing as young and vital.

There were stories of those who experienced unexpected deaths, and how the loss impacted the storytellers. Both received messages from beyond this world ...



Death Cafe: Truth or Consequences Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Oct. 2, 2013, 3:56 p.m.



With Gail Rubin

Oct. 13, 2013, 11.00 a.m. - 12.30 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


This is the first Death Cafe in Truth or Consequences. Gail conducted the first U.S. Death Cafe west of the Mississippi in Albuquerque September 2012.



Death Cafe: Silver City Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Oct. 2, 2013, 3:53 p.m.



With Gail Rubin

Oct. 12, 2013, 3.00 p.m. - 5.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


This is the first Death Cafe in Silver City, NM. Gail conducted the first U.S. Death Cafe west of the Mississippi in Albuquerque September 2012.



Death Cafe: Albuquerque Death Cafe

Posted by Gail Rubin, CT on Oct. 2, 2013, 3:46 p.m.



With Gail Rubin

Oct. 30, 2013, 4.00 p.m. - 6.00 p.m. (Mountain)

Free - purchase of food/drink encouraged


This is the fifth Death Cafe in Albuquerque. Gail conducted the first U.S. Death Cafe west of the Mississippi in September 2012.





Contact Gail Rubin, CT

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