A reminder to grab life!
A write up of Peckham Death Cafe
By annkenrick
A group of around 15 people gathered in Peckham Levels with the trains thundering past outside the window. Much laughter and tears and good cake was on offer too. Points raised in the discussion included:
If you want to work out what a 'bad death' is, it's probably better to start with what you believe to be a 'good death'.
Could anxieties about whether you achieved what you wanted for the wider good mean you might have a bad death, even if you're not in pain etc.?
Legacy/how you want to be remembered doesn't have to be anything large scale, but it's up to you to make it - e.g. if you've planted a tree, that will delight people in years to come when you're not around.
Well-channelled humour can be good in the darkest of times. There is usually something about you or someone for whom you are grieving that will make you/others smile - cf Don't Put Yourself on Toast
Would you resent it if a family member/friend kept their terminal illness from you and then died suddenly, depriving you of more time that you would have spent with them, had you known?
What is really important for you at the moment of death? One member of the group said she wanted to be held physically.
The challenge of decluttering having gathered 'stuff' over the years
Different approaches to grieving - the power of the Jamaican ritual of Nine Night with a celebration of the dead person's life.