Death Cafe profile for Beth Almerini


Location: United States

About Beth Almerini:

I have been a hospice nurse for 26 years and have seen first hand the results of our culture's reluctance to talk about death and dying. It often makes a difficult time even more stressful and it's very challenging to help people who are dying and their families when they begin to experience something they've avoided thinking about or discussing for so long.


What brings you to Death Cafe?

I think it's important to provide a space for discussion of what is a normal process we all will experience, and to simply encourage a conversation.


What would you like your legacy to be?

I would like my legacy to be a bit more light in the world when I leave then there was when I arrived.


Thoughts for sharing:

It has been my experience that people do what they do because they think it will keep them safe, especially when death is involved.




Beth Almerini's posts on the Death Cafe website


Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Oct. 26, 2017, 9:07 p.m.

I always want to say this was the best meeting ever, because they are all that good.  We had eleven people, including a reporter (!). We spent time talking about the impact the death of a pet has on us and how, in many ways, it can be more difficult to process. That led to a discussion about disenfranchised grief and we somehow ended up talking about after death "miracles" and how loved ones who have passed still influence us and were fortunate to hear the personal story of a participant's near death experience.  As usual, there were some tears, a lot of laughter and, of course, delicious ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Oct. 7, 2017, 10:22 a.m.

As always, each meeting is different, and this one was very special.  It was a small group of previous attendees and new ones and the conversation ranged from the philosophical to the downright funny. In fact, this gathering disproved the idea that talking about death is somehow morbid and depressing. We're all looking forward to October's session.

 



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 4:15 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Dec. 19, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.


Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 4:14 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Nov. 28, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.


Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 4:14 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Oct. 24, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.


Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 4:12 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Sept. 26, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.


Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 5, 2017, 3:12 p.m.

Another interesting and lively event. There was a mix of new people and people who have attended before and discussion ranged from thoughts on assisted suicided to how to comfort the bereaved, to how religion influences our thoughts about death.  Come join us for our next meeting!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on July 25, 2017, 2:39 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Aug. 15, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EDT)

$10 suggested donation for meeting room and refreshments gratefully accepted, but not required.


Break the old taboo that we shouldn't talk about death and dying and join in a lively, interesting conversation complete with tea and cake. Bring your questions, your opinions ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on July 19, 2017, 2:47 p.m.

A death doula, a thanantologist, a retired nurse, a few Quakers, a few people who had cared for dying loved ones and some people intrigued by the idea of talking about death walked into a room and were glad they did! We shared personal stories, tried to figure out why the death care system is the way it is, talked about death doulas and how to work with people who are dying. And then we enjoyed cake and kept on talking.  We decided to do it again in August!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on June 9, 2017, 8:49 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

July 11, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Time)

Suggested donation: $10 for space and refreshments. Gratefully accepted, but not required.


Death and dying seem to be the last taboo, so come  break the taboo and join in a lively, interesting conversation about all things related to death and dying.  Bring ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on April 27, 2017, 1:29 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

May 16, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern Daylight Time)

Donations for cost of refreshments and space gratefully accepted, but not required


Why don't we talk about death? We seem to be able to discuss all sorts of intimate issues in public, but somehow avoid talking about death.  Let's break ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on April 10, 2017, 12:03 p.m.

Nourishing conversations, tasty treats, happy laughter, gentle disagreements, new participants, and many points of view charactericized this meeting. This was a more intimate group than at our last Death Cafe and the conversation was a bit deeper. The newer participants were in their 30s and had a great deal to contribute.  We all enjoyed the conversation so much, we've decided to meet again in May!



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on March 5, 2017, 11:36 a.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

March 22, 2017, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (Eastern)

Donations for cost of refreshments and space gratefully accepted, but not required


Come, join us for a conversation about a subject that is too often avoided.  We will all face death, so why not talk about it before that day arrives?  Bring ...



Death Cafe write up: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Oct. 25, 2016, 12:45 p.m.

This was my first Death Cafe, and it was so much more than I had expected.  We had 15 attendees and conversation that was interesting, insightful, unexpected, funny and poignant.  People participated enthusiastically, and expressed real gratitude for being able to talk about death without a need either for euphemisms or being careful not to upset someone by being too direct.  There were nurses attending who expressed their frustrations around dealing with death in the medical setting. I also found that, by introducing myself a hospice nurse, people had many, many questions and appreciated the opportunity to have them answered. There was such a large response, that I ...



Death Cafe: Monmouth County Death Cafe

Posted by Beth Almerini on Sept. 19, 2016, 4:50 p.m.



With Elisabeth Almerini, RN, BSN, CHPN

Oct. 20, 2016, 7.00 p.m. - 9.00 p.m. (EST)

Donations for cost of refreshments and space gratefully accepted, but not required


What is the one thing that happens to us all that no one wants to discuss? If you'd like to talk about death, dying and related issues, please join ...