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I'm a little confused and am hoping you might clarify something for me.
I've hosted 8 Death Cafes over the past year, ranging from 12 people to 34, and it's become a regular event that the community looks forward to.
I'm a funeral celebrant but as far as I understand it, the 'rules' of the DC movement are that we don't talk about our work or give topics for discussion or provide information.
I have abided by those 'rules' strictly, despite wishing that I could share some of my knowledge, things I've learned.
In fact, I'm wondering whether, in order to share valuable information, I might need to call the evenings something else and lose out on supporting the DC movement, which would be a shame as I value it enormously.
I'm confused because this morning I have read (on Google) a newspaper report about a Death Cafe, run by a funeral celebrant. (I don't want to post the link as I'd like to preserve the celebrant's privacy.)
The report says, "Tonight the discussion mainly revolves around funerals, burial and cremation – the importance of sharing our wishes, ways to discuss this with relatives, and curious bits of information about the rules and regulations on what can be put in a coffin: mobile phones yes, but the batteries must be removed; favourite biscuits are fine.
How do I save a template to use for listing future death cafes to save having to enter information repeatedly???
I'm unclear about the follow-up for the Death Cafe. Are the evaluations submitted in any way to DeathCafe.com? Is there any other post-cafe activity that deathcafe.com would like from the host?
I was contacted recently by an individual concerned that someone was offering a Death Cafe where alcohol was served.
My personal opinion (and from discussions that Donna and I had with Jon, his perspective also) is that it is okay for alcohol to be served so long as participants are notified that it will be available.
I would be really keen to hear about your personal experiences of Death Cafes where alcohol was served. In an attempt not to project our personal values about alcohol (whether good or bad) do you think it would be harmful/ beneficial/ neither?
Please comment below, and thank you for everything ...
Hello All! Just wanted to update and say I held the very first official Death Cafe group here in Kirkcaldy, Fife, Scotalnd.
12 people turned up which was great as it was a nice little group who sat around the table chatting. We covered a varied amount of topics which got people thinking.
I received great feedback as I handed out my own version of Evaluation/Feedback Form. Further Death Cafe's have been requested so I am looking into that at the moment.
Turned out to be a positive experience for everyone involved. Looking to try and arrange one just before the Christmas/New Year holidays.
A question was posed that we were unable to answer satisfactorily for the guest.
What causes uneasiness about death and how to deal with that if you don't believe in the afterlife?
We all shared our beliefs and beyond that I am not sure there is anything to say. Any suggestions?
I am hoping to host a death café in my area and I want to ask local cafés if they would be happy to have the events on their premises. I think I can explain the concep reasonably well, but I’d like to leave a professional looking flyer with a brief explanation of the ethos, Death café web address and my phone number.
Does this resource exist already please?
If not does anyone have something along these lines I can modify?
all the best Chiara
Hi, everyone! I was wondering if anyone else has used flyers to help promote their cafe. I'm looking for ways to promote mine, the third coming this Novemeber, and I'd like to make some, but thought I'd ask you all with more experience first.
Graphics I think I have a handle on, but I am wondering about which description of what cafes are best. I don't want to be too wordy, but I'd like people to really know what they are.
Thanks in advance...working on one now!
Hello Death Cafe community!
We still need experienced Death Cafe hosts to be media representatives - ideally we'll have several people in each country where Death Cafes are held.
If you're interested you will need to provide the following information:
1: Your name
2: Your email
3: Your location (e.g. city, state, country)
4: Are you 100% confident that you know the Death Cafe guidelines inside out
5: Have you dealt with media requests in the past?
6: Do you have any relevant specialisms or additional information?
Please send the answers to the above questions via the Contact Us form in the link, and we'll add you to the list.
Thank you for your support!
We have just hosted our first Death Cafe in Chichester and it was a brilliant evening. Lots of discussion, laughter and positive comments. I'm kicking myself thoug as I forgot to take a photo. Is it possible to get a Death Cafe logo I can use for a press release for the local paper? We are going to look to hold another in November.
Hoje será nosso primeiro encontro do Death Café Porto Alegre. Estamos felizes com a receptividade da população da nossa cidade. Acreditamos que falar de morte é muito saudável e benéfico para todos.
Since I have been managing the admin on Death Cafe and keeping a closer eye on things, it has come to my attention that the below is still an issue.
Due to the growing awareness of Death Cafe and the inevitable changes we're now facing, it's more important than ever that we hold true to our principles and guidelines. So I am reposting the message below from Jon, which was issued in 2014. You can see the original here.
This is a post I have put off writing for some time.
Sadly there are people who are using the name Death Cafe ...
Hello, I facilitated my first Death Cafe last night and it was a great turnout for our rural community. The evaluation forms were very helpful with great feedback. A few people suggested promts or topics to help with structure, which I know we don't do, I will explain that more clearly next time. The other comment was regarding a person who 'dominated' the discussion and constructive criticism that I could have facilitated the conversation better. My thoughts are this: it was our first meeting. I think a lot of people initially feel a need to share their story with death. As the group progresses, I believe the conversation will as well. Further, the person repeatedly said that others refuse to discuss the death so I can understand the need for this person to discuss, or perhaps it is their personality type to self-direct conversation, I don't know. Does anyone have any feedback on how to facilitate a situation like this?
Just wondering if other facilitators have read/are versed in the writings of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross ("On Death and Dying"), Dr. Raymond Moody ("Life After Life"), Adi Da Samraj ("Easy Death") or Anya Foos-Graber ("Deathing") ? It would seem that a good grounding in such wisdom (as well as witnessing end-of-life experiences themselves) would greatly help when leading such conversations/facilitating "Death Cafes". I've read all of these books, and have found them enormously helpful as I've helped loved ones through the death process.
Hello, I am hosting my first Death Cafe in a small community in Vermont. I am designing a flyer and am curious about the images that other people have used for their flyers. I have seen some that I would like to 'borrow', is it appropriate to contact the organizer to ask? Are these peoples' original art or stock images? Thank you!