Death Cafe Practitioners Page
Hoje será nosso primeiro encontro do Death Café Porto Alegre. Estamos felizes com a receptividade da população da nossa cidade. Acreditamos que falar de morte é muito saudável e benéfico para todos.
Since I have been managing the admin on Death Cafe and keeping a closer eye on things, it has come to my attention that the below is still an issue.
Due to the growing awareness of Death Cafe and the inevitable changes we're now facing, it's more important than ever that we hold true to our principles and guidelines. So I am reposting the message below from Jon, which was issued in 2014. You can see the original here.
This is a post I have put off writing for some time.
Sadly there are people who are using the name Death Cafe ...
Hello, I facilitated my first Death Cafe last night and it was a great turnout for our rural community. The evaluation forms were very helpful with great feedback. A few people suggested promts or topics to help with structure, which I know we don't do, I will explain that more clearly next time. The other comment was regarding a person who 'dominated' the discussion and constructive criticism that I could have facilitated the conversation better. My thoughts are this: it was our first meeting. I think a lot of people initially feel a need to share their story with death. As the group progresses, I believe the conversation will as well. Further, the person repeatedly said that others refuse to discuss the death so I can understand the need for this person to discuss, or perhaps it is their personality type to self-direct conversation, I don't know. Does anyone have any feedback on how to facilitate a situation like this?
Just wondering if other facilitators have read/are versed in the writings of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross ("On Death and Dying"), Dr. Raymond Moody ("Life After Life"), Adi Da Samraj ("Easy Death") or Anya Foos-Graber ("Deathing") ? It would seem that a good grounding in such wisdom (as well as witnessing end-of-life experiences themselves) would greatly help when leading such conversations/facilitating "Death Cafes". I've read all of these books, and have found them enormously helpful as I've helped loved ones through the death process.
Hello, I am hosting my first Death Cafe in a small community in Vermont. I am designing a flyer and am curious about the images that other people have used for their flyers. I have seen some that I would like to 'borrow', is it appropriate to contact the organizer to ask? Are these peoples' original art or stock images? Thank you!
Hello! I attended my first Death Cafe last fall and it was such a good experience I wanted to host another one in our community. What I noticed in the first one is that people were comfortable talking about death, but suicide remained taboo. I am thinking I would like to focus the conversation on this one around suicide, but is that too narrow a focus to maintain the guidelines?
Also, if I collect donations, can they go to something specific, say, a local suicde support group?
Is it improper for a facilitator is participate in any way to contribute to the group conversation? We had a small group and some facilitators shared their thoughts as well with the group. There was feedback later amongst the facilitators as to how this should be handled? Your thoughts would be much appreciated
So I know that we're to make clear that deathcafe isn't a bereavement group. Can anyone tell me when talking about your relationship with death crosses into a bereavement group? I need to be really clear on this, as I am looking to host one.
Thanks so much, everyone!
I'm thinking about starting up a DC. My first one will probably be in the community centre cafe but when I mentioned it to one of the Funeral Directors I work with, he suggested I could hold them in their new premises when it's completed next year.
This would be fab, as they would have catering and parking and a central location - but would it be OK with DC guidelines? Assuming, of course, that they are not promoted in any way other than being in their premises...
I have just held my first Death Cafe and it turned out well with a great turn out. I am planning the next one and have booked early September. I only planned on doing this quarterly. However I am getting advice that it's too far away and I should try to hold one in July. I feel like people will be away on holiday and I too am very busy this summer.
How often do you hold Death Cafes? I know a practitioner that does one everyear month, but I work and have a family and don't have the energy. I thought September would be fine but now worried it is too far away!
I want to past the details for my second Death Cafe. The only place I can find to do that is on the "Host a Death Cafe" form. I thought that was for craeting it the first time. Or, do I just change the address every month? - Heather Austin North
I'm a birth provider and I'd like to host a Death Cafe as a space for people to discuss fetal and perinatal loss. Does this fit into the Death Cafe ethos? I noticed that it was mentioned to not have a topic or a theme.
We are having a death cafe this weekend and I want to find out what the rules and suggestions are on having children. My preference is to NOT have kids present.
Our first death cafe is being held on 13th May and we're wondering whether we should have name labels available? Anyone else done this? Good idea or not?
We have three facilitators who we thought should wear name labels, but not sure if attendees would want to.
I will be hosting my first Death Cafe next week and a journalist has asked if she can visit to write a story about the event. I appreciate what you've posted on this website about journalists at the sessions but I'm wondering if people who attend the event might be restrained or intimidated or even feel that they privacy is being invaded, even if the journalist agrees not to publish names.
What has been your experience with this?
Thanks in advance for any advice or suggestions you can provide.